Harry Stack Sullivan, in The Interpersonal Theory of Psychiatry , argues that human beings have a biological drive to develop and establish interpersonal relationships. In Biological Basis for Human Social Behavior , R.A. Hind suggests that a person’s “attachment style”—the way in which they relate to other human beings and form relationships with them—is developed mostly during childhood. The attachment style tends to persist into adulthood but is not fixed and can be modified either positively or negatively as the result of further interactions.

As a leader, and a lover, it is wise to know where you are coming from in relationships with people. As you know already from your reading, you can’t manage relationship if you can’t manage yourself. You can’t know someone else if you don’t know yourself. Otherwise, you will just be projecting onto people, and won’t know anything about your reality or your truth or love.

A sacred relationship takes two. Sometimes one or both people, are just not ready. To move into a sacred relationship, the individual you choose must be ready. If they are desperate, they say, “Got to this” and “Got to that”, and they are not ready. If they are always saying, “You should be like this”, or “You should be like that” then they are not ready.

Perhaps it’s because life has become easier over the years or perhaps it’s just because people have higher expectations than they did in the past but whatever the reason one of the most common marriage problems is to bail out when the going gets a little tough.

Hard work is bad management not only relates to business. It is totally true in relationship and self health. If it's hard work, meaning stressful, long hours, not enjoyable, tiring or boring, then it's time for change. Big change. Because bad management destroys things.

Do we let society dictate to us who we should fall in love with ? Or should we as individuals make that choice?

Most couples are looking for a happy relationship. Happiness is a state of mind that makes a person content. Happy couples have the key that enhances a solid relationship. Happy couples genuinely love and respect each other. Their attitudes towards one another and the way they communicate are a key to their successful relationship.

In today's hectic and fast-paced world, it can be easy to be caught up in the speed of daily living. It seems there is always some message coming at us from somewhere, whether it's the television, radio, computer, or billboards. A bit of quiet time spent with someone you love can be a great way to add some much-needed downtime and romance into your lives.

Relationships can be so exciting at the start. It’s a time when you just can’t wait to see each other, spend every spare minute dreaming about each other and just can’t keep off the phone. Unfortunately as the relationship develops into a comfortable routine, the excitement generally recedes, the need to touch base becomes more infrequent and a period of normality sets in. For many, the excitement is in the chase and for others the feeling of commitment can become a strain, the recognition that the love of your life is only human and has their faults makes you question your judgment, and the disappearance of those little surprises can out a dampener on the whole thing.

Remaining positive when dealing with negative people in your life can be quite a challenge. Use these 7 tips to maintain your positive attitude and avoid getting infected with someone else's negativity.

It feels so good when...This would be the perfect relationship, but who has this?

The importance of taking responsibility for one's own health is a corner stone for a successful relationship. This is why many don't and what can be done about it.

A marriage proposal is meant to be a special and memorable occasion. Here are a few tips on what not to do, and suggestions on getting the timing & location just right.

A second marriage can be challenging if you don’t know what you’re in for. Watch out for these pitfalls to increase your chance of a successful second marriage.

It had been three years since I had last seen my wife and I new that once we parted ways there would be no turning back. Too much damage had been done and it was finally clear to me after years of lies and deceit that our marriage was doomed from the start.

Women often complain that their husbands or relationship partners never express their feelings. Often they get angry thinking that their partners don't have feelings and don't really care. In my work as a psychotherapist, I help men learn how to express their feelings every day, so I know from many years of experience that men do have feelings and that they can definitely learn to express them!

Everyone dreaded report card day in school and if you are dreading making your own relationship report card, then you need to buckle down and study! When you rank all of the aspects of your relationship with your spouse, you want (and need!) to score in the high nineties for an A+.

Singles – be patient, God will send you that one special gift – that is as beautiful within as without. Couples – strive diligently to keep that special gift, your spouse, special.

When a husband and wife give gifts to one another in a spirit of friendship it creates between them feelings of comradery, affection and closeness. Cheerful giving attracts, and selfishness repels. When husband brings his wife a thoughtful birthday gift, it is the receiver that has to be happy about the gift, not the giver.

People with a great smile radiate a warmth that draws others to them instantly.

Right there, on the floor, disguised as an antique carpet runner, conflict, resolution, intimacy and deeper understanding are enfolded all around us. Try as we would, we can’t hide. So why not open to the possibilities. After all, that’s what intimacy is all about.

Some of the best lessons come directly from the counseling office. Here's some of the wisdom my clients are sending you this week: 5 things to avoid, and 5 things to do in relationships.