After researching numerous books and attending seminars on effective relationships I have found that the following behaviors are pretty consistent in relationships that last and are filled with love, happiness and friendship. Yhey are and in no particular order of importance.

Pen pals are gradually becoming more technology savvy. Days are gone when people used to write letter to their pen pals. The approach was very personal. People used to receive letters written on attractive stationery from their pen pals. Recipients would be so overjoyed when they saw a letter from their pen pals in the mailbox. It was a real treat. People share their thoughts, joys and sorrows with their pen pals through letters. But, with the introduction of Internet, handwritten letters have become quite an obsolete phenomenon. Email has pretty much replaced handwritten letters.

Relationships are never perfect and some appear less perfect than others but just because you don't always see eye to eye and just because you have let the relationship slide it doesn't mean to say that you weren't meant to be together.

Giving an engagement ring, is a big step toward marriage. But the process has become so overwhelming, that it almost overshadows the wedding.

I used to paint when I was young. I was a dancer. I loved hiking. I loved outdoor sports and so it goes on. I used to be is the common theme. I have forgotten about all that, because my partner does not like that?

Look for the beauty of the moment. It won’t leap out and grab you. But it’s there. Be open to what is happening around you and open to what the moment has to offer. It will return rich gifts.

Do you know how to use love languages in your relationship? Read on to discover how to use this powerful tool in your own relationship.