Part of the beauty and the frustration of any partnership is the difference.

This Holiday Season, instead of fighting the unsettling feelings,sink into them. Remember that all transitions have wonderful moments and scary moments, and that by staying connected to your feelings, you can navigate yourself to a more fulfilling and authentic New Year.

When we’re young, we’re taught to play nice and share. Selfishness is a vice, and consideration a virtue. We carry those beliefs with us into adulthood where they work well in everyday life. But, the situation is different when you’re dating.

The admen and the marketing mavens have created a cultural expectation around special occasions and calendar events. We are inundated with sales pitches for Christmas, birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, New Year, Halloween, Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Father's Day, and any other day they can find that will make us feel that we absolutely have to buy a gift to express our sentiments. Dates on the calendar are merely days like any other days. Our relationships are 365 days a year and something this good deserves a celebration at any time and at any place.