afraid to choose one because you think you may pick the wrong goals and end up in another trap. You are frightened by the thought of making a commitment.

"And you don't really believe at this point you can plan your life for success. Other people do. Why can't you?"

I went on to explain that

The young woman's face was a picture of unhappiness and worry, totally out of keeping with the 29th birthday she had just passed, as she described her predicament and asked for my advice.

"My job is driving me crazy. I am frustrated because I am not getting ahead," she said. "I want desperately to make a change, but I just don't know what to do about it." Her story was one I hear often from people at all levels of their careers. Henry David Thoreau could have had someone like her in mind when he wrote in "Walden" in 1854 that "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."

I began our discussion with the root question: "What do you want to be doing five years from now?"

"That's the problem; I don't know," she answered. "There are so many things I would like to do, it's hard to make a decision," she said. "One day it's this, the next day it is something else. In the meantime, I feel like time is passing me by."

"Nonsense, it is never too late to take charge of where your life is going," I responded. "But you cannot get out of this hole you are in until you make a decision on what you want to do. That first step may be the hardest one to take. You have a lot of options, but you are afraid to choose one because you think you may pick the wrong goals and end up in another trap. You are frightened by the thought of making a commitment.

"And you don't really believe at this point you can plan your life for success. Other people do. Why can't you?"

I went on to explain that i

e a change, but I just don't know what to do about it." Her story was one I hear often from people at all levels of their careers. Henry David Thoreau could have had someone like her in mind when he wrote in "Walden" in 1854 that "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."

I began our discussion with the root question: "What do you want to be doing five years from now?"

"That's the problem; I don't know," she answered. "There are so many things I would like to do, it's hard to make a decision," she said. "One day it's this, the next day it is something else. In the meantime, I feel like time is passing me by."

"Nonsense, it is never too late to take charge of where your life is going," I responded. "But you cannot get out of this hole you are in until you make a decision on what you want to do. That first step may be the hardest one to take. You have a lot of options, but you are afraid to choose one because you think you may pick the wrong goals and end up in another trap. You are frightened by the thought of making a commitment.

"And you don't really believe at this point you can plan your life for success. Other people do. Why can't you?"

I went on to explain that

ion with the root question: "What do you want to be doing five years from now?"

"That's the problem; I don't know," she answered. "There are so many things I would like to do, it's hard to make a decision," she said. "One day it's this, the next day it is something else. In the meantime, I feel like time is passing me by."

"Nonsense, it is never too late to take charge of where your life is going," I responded. "But you cannot get out of this hole you are in until you make a decision on what you want to do. That first step may be the hardest one to take. You have a lot of options, but you are afraid to choose one because you think you may pick the wrong goals and end up in another trap. You are frightened by the thought of making a commitment.

"And you don't really believe at this point you can plan your life for success. Other people do. Why can't you?"

I went on to explain that

time is passing me by."

"Nonsense, it is never too late to take charge of where your life is going," I responded. "But you cannot get out of this hole you are in until you make a decision on what you want to do. That first step may be the hardest one to take. You have a lot of options, but you are afraid to choose one because you think you may pick the wrong goals and end up in another trap. You are frightened by the thought of making a commitment.

"And you don't really believe at this point you can plan your life for success. Other people do. Why can't you?"

I went on to explain that

afraid to choose one because you think you may pick the wrong goals and end up in another trap. You are frightened by the thought of making a commitment.

"And you don't really believe at this point you can plan your life for success. Other people do. Why can't you?"

I went on to explain that if she made a mistake she could always change her mind and set other goals. It is better to pick a target and work toward it – even if it has to be changed – than to continue to drift pillow to post, slipping deeper and deeper into frustration and depression. Long-range goals are basic to surviving and triumphing over short-range failures that are bound to happen.

Four Action Steps To Get On Track

We went on to discuss some specific planning steps--a road map-- she should undertake to get her career on track.

First, I explained, she should put in writing her goals for the next three to five years. These goals should spell out what she wanted to be doing in her work; where she wanted to live; what lifestyle she wanted; how much money she wanted to be making.

Second, I advised her to make a written list of her assets that could be applied to her campaign to realize her goals: her education, her talents and skills, her experiences, her likes and dislikes.

Third, I explained she would need to look at those two lists, side by side. This exercise would identify the gap between where she stood in terms of assets and where she wanted to go. She could see in black and white, graphic terms what