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Thumbs Up! presents. To be healthy, happy, creative, secure, energized, serene and loved requires staying in the light. Staying in the light obviously also means staying out of fear.Another great place for sparkling gems. I have read many blogs on this subject, the pros and cons. Could not it just be that woman, teens and men enjoy wearing rings on their thumbs? Lots of couples enjoy wearing matching thumb rings. Evening wear in thumb rings has developed into quite a fashion statement with black pearls or diamonds. Some in the form of Eternity Rings. It is said that the "Thumb is the finger of Independence", if that is so, many people are outstretching their thumbs. Maybe it's just a personal fashion statement. Thumb Rings can be stacked for your own fashion statement. Thumb rings are fashioned from all types of metals, 14K gold, 14k gold filled, Sterling Silver, Hypo-allergenic metals, Mixed metals of gold and sterling silver. Twisted braids, beautiful colored gems and zirconia. Stacking or Layering is the key to many rings I have seen being worn these days. The designs are endless. These rings can be worn on the middle finger as well, sort of interchangeable. Another added plus for thumb rings. World renowned jewelry designers have jumped on board as well in this arena. Only to design rings that are more beautiful than the next. This is just the beginning. Who is to say whats' next. Rings are placed almost everywhere on the body today. It's a personal choice and one that should be spirited in it's own way. I for one believe thumb rings are elegant and graceful. Whether at work or play. We would love to hear your thoughts. I have already explained appropriate fear, but I now wish to put that aside and expose inappropriate fear for what it really is. To me, fear is my concept of Satan; an evil, destructive, paralysing force. I would suspect that every atrocity ever carried out was done so, on the motivation of fear. What motivates violence, wars, murders and suicides or evil, anger, hatred or prejudices? Peel away the layers again, and you will keep coming back to the same core – fear. Fear is imagination predicting the worst possible outcome. When the imagination is engaged in repetition and emotion, it becomes a belief. Our beliefs determine our actions and as the old saying goes, what you conceive and believe, you will achieve. For right or wrong, good or bad, this is the creative force within us all. We may feel sad and helpless when we look at the world, and many of the events taking place around us. We can become overwhelmed, to the point of depression, some feel rage and want to fight, and others feel paralysed and implode. There is so much injustice, poverty, waste, pollution and destruction. There are social and environmenta Three Strategies to Create an Abundant Life Fear has many faces and most of those faces are in disguise. Fear can be so deceptive that we rarely recognize or define it, and therefore fail to challenge it when it sneaks up upon us in such an insidious way that it can paralyse, erode, control and ultimately destroy us. Fear is the most lethal weapon and the most toxic poison known to man. Fear is highly contagious and self-destructive. Fear can be spread by word, suggestion, imagery, innuendo or intimidation.Each of us has many things to be grateful for in our lives. But sometimes we take them for granted or, even worse, we forget them in the midst of our crowded daily schedules. Working moms tell me that when they are really busy they find themselves focusing on what they don't have instead of treasuring what they do.Returning home from a particularly stressful day at work, you might find yourself complaining that your house isn't clean, big or modern enough. When you've woken late and are rushing yourself and two school-age children out the door, your offspring's behavior may lead you to think (or say out loud) that they are wild and uncooperative. And if you are experiencing mounting deadlines and unreasonable demands at the office, it may be difficult for you to muster a positive attitude about your career.If you find yourself thinking more about what is lacking in your life than reveling in its abundance, you may be unintentionally fostering an attitude of scarcity (there's just not and never will be enough). Life is not always perfect (it's not supposed to be) nor does it always go our way. But when you acknowledge what is working, when you are grateful for the simple joys of life, like a hug from your child, you become more aware of the goodness and abundance that surrounds you each day. Use these three strategies to help you create a more abundant life.1. Acknowledge the PositivesYou are what you focus on. Pay attention to all the positives in your life each day. Instead of concentrating on your messy house, be grateful that you have a safe and comfortable home. Make an effort to be really aware during your precious moments with your children rather than obsessing about the times they are exuberant and wily.2. Practice Daily GratitudeBegin by practicing gratitude on a daily basis. List mentally (or in a journal) five things you are thankful for each day. On challenging days you may only be able to cite the basics, like "I'm still breathi Fear is a chameleon and will most often show up as something completely different which makes it very difficult to recognize or unmask. Almost all destructive behavioural and emotional responses can be tracked back to fear when we peel away the layers of our feelings and actions. Fear is the core issue behind violence, jealousy, bigotry, anger, depression, greed, hatred, lies, insecurity or obsessive worry, just to name a few. When fear is appropriate it is a vital, effective life saving response, which is critical to self-preservation. Staying alive and protecting ourselves from harm is our most primal and instinctual priority. Appropriate fear, will prevent and protect us from danger; it will instantly ignite super alertness and superhuman strength. This is commonly referred to as the fight or flight response. Most of us will have experienced this super state of reaction if we have been involved in a potential car accident. In something like a nanosecond we are capable of processing an extraordinary amount of information and physically manoeuvre the car to avoid the collision. Appropriate fear is also an effective decision making factor. Most, if not all, of our choices are based on predicting pleasure or pain. We are predominately motivated by pleasure and pain, that is, gaining pleasure or avoiding pain. We all like to kid ourselves that we operate from intellect, and that we make decisions by using knowledge, logic and experience. If we just scratch the surface a little we will almost always find that our motivations are emotionally based. Pleasure is easy to comprehend; we choose and maintain our careers, relationships, homes, hobbies and possessions because they please us. Choices of pleasure may encompass comfort, self-esteem, love, respect, acceptance, approval, security, safety and prosperity. Decisions based on avoiding pain may include any or all of the above, but from the flip side. Avoiding pain is extremely motivating and many of our decisions and reactions have a fear base. Pain avoidance is what fear is. Fear of physical or emotional harm, poverty, abandonment, violence, humiliation, loneliness, disapproval, disease and ultimately – death. It is vitally important to discern what appropriate and inappropriate fear is, as appropriate fear can and will protect us, and inappropriate fear can destroy us. Most of the time we don’t recognize it at all, so, it’s impossible to name it, let alone challenge it. The human condition has a huge emotional range and can appear quite fluid in its ability to change; we can be carried away or bounced around in a little cesspool of negative influences one minute, and then find ourselves lifted up and flying high the next. Emotions can be quite unpredictable, indefinable and often uncontrollable, and yet emotions can dominate, create or destroy us. Some people believe hate is the base emotion and love is the highest. Indifference is often considered to be the opposite of love, but it is my belief that both hate and indifference are by products of fear. The ultimate fear must be fear of death; being inevitable, we really should make peace with this and find it within ourselves to accept it. When we place fear in the realm of death, then we must place love in the realm of life. We are living anywhere between these polarities, and might view life as rhythms, vibrations and frequencies between polarities. We understand night and day, light and dark, coarse and fine, heavy and light, negative and positive, hate and love, thick and light and good and evil. When we consider all of life is energy, then we can place ourselves within the frequencies of these polarities. When fear is positioned at the darkest side of the polarity, we can include all of fears associates; hate greed, jealousy, anger, violence and poverty etc. The ‘dark side’ is also represented by death, decay, destruction, war, evil and disease. Negative frequencies are coarse, slow or stagnant, heavy, thick, lethargic, black and isolated. The dark side is asleep, lifeless and barren. Likewise, love represents all that is light, alive, creative, healing, joyful, energizing and fertile. As energetic bodies, within an energetic realm, we synchronize with similar energies. This is really huge, and may be hard to get your head around, but it’s also very simple. Thoughts and emotions are energies, which align themselves with compatible energies. The greatest minds, all religions, the sages, prophets and philosophers as well as Bob Dylan, John Lennon and every other person who ever had a quality thought, all said this: LOVE IS THE ANSWER. Love is light, Love is God, Love is the creative force, Love is freedom - because love aligns us with all that light represents. To be healthy, happy, creative, secure, energized, serene and loved requires staying in the light. Staying in the light obviously also means staying out of fear. I have already explained appropriate fear, but I now wish to put that aside and expose inappropriate fear for what it really is. To me, fear is my concept of Satan; an evil, destructive, paralysing force. I would suspect that every atrocity ever carried out was done so, on the motivation of fear. What motivates violence, wars, murders and suicides or evil, anger, hatred or prejudices? Peel away the layers again, and you will keep coming back to the same core – fear. Fear is imagination predicting the worst possible outcome. When the imagination is engaged in repetition and emotion, it becomes a belief. Our beliefs determine our actions and as the old saying goes, what you conceive and believe, you will achieve. For right or wrong, good or bad, this is the creative force within us all. We may feel sad and helpless when we look at the world, and many of the events taking place around us. We can become overwhelmed, to the point of depression, some feel rage and want to fight, and others feel paralysed and implode. There is so much injustice, poverty, waste, pollution and destruction. There are social and environmental Submitting Articles Which Are Search Engine Friendly And Get Results have experienced this super state of reaction if we have been involved in a potential car accident. In something like a nanosecond we are capable of processing an extraordinary amount of information and physically manoeuvre the car to avoid the collision.Overall, what you have to understand with search engines is that they are built to emulate how we think and to give us what we want. Those same people who are trying "get rich quick" schemes (or selling them to you) probably don't really see this in their lives. Search engines are built to give you what you want, and are constantly reprogrammed so that you do get better results.What anyone wants from the Internet is valuable information really fast.When people are trying to work this system through lots of padded keywords, bogus links, annoying pop-ups and other short-cuts - they just don't get it. 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Your title has to excite people enough to read your abstract.Finally, check out your article for typo's and grammar problems. As most of these articles are reviewed by humans, any errors could cause a reject. If they do pass it on with errors in it, you may lose some credibility. Most sites allow you to edit your articles, but how many thousands have viewed your page before you caught it? Prepare well before you execute.>Write l Appropriate fear is also an effective decision making factor. Most, if not all, of our choices are based on predicting pleasure or pain. We are predominately motivated by pleasure and pain, that is, gaining pleasure or avoiding pain. We all like to kid ourselves that we operate from intellect, and that we make decisions by using knowledge, logic and experience. If we just scratch the surface a little we will almost always find that our motivations are emotionally based. Pleasure is easy to comprehend; we choose and maintain our careers, relationships, homes, hobbies and possessions because they please us. Choices of pleasure may encompass comfort, self-esteem, love, respect, acceptance, approval, security, safety and prosperity. Decisions based on avoiding pain may include any or all of the above, but from the flip side. Avoiding pain is extremely motivating and many of our decisions and reactions have a fear base. Pain avoidance is what fear is. Fear of physical or emotional harm, poverty, abandonment, violence, humiliation, loneliness, disapproval, disease and ultimately – death. It is vitally important to discern what appropriate and inappropriate fear is, as appropriate fear can and will protect us, and inappropriate fear can destroy us. Most of the time we don’t recognize it at all, so, it’s impossible to name it, let alone challenge it. The human condition has a huge emotional range and can appear quite fluid in its ability to change; we can be carried away or bounced around in a little cesspool of negative influences one minute, and then find ourselves lifted up and flying high the next. Emotions can be quite unpredictable, indefinable and often uncontrollable, and yet emotions can dominate, create or destroy us. Some people believe hate is the base emotion and love is the highest. Indifference is often considered to be the opposite of love, but it is my belief that both hate and indifference are by products of fear. The ultimate fear must be fear of death; being inevitable, we really should make peace with this and find it within ourselves to accept it. When we place fear in the realm of death, then we must place love in the realm of life. We are living anywhere between these polarities, and might view life as rhythms, vibrations and frequencies between polarities. We understand night and day, light and dark, coarse and fine, heavy and light, negative and positive, hate and love, thick and light and good and evil. When we consider all of life is energy, then we can place ourselves within the frequencies of these polarities. When fear is positioned at the darkest side of the polarity, we can include all of fears associates; hate greed, jealousy, anger, violence and poverty etc. The ‘dark side’ is also represented by death, decay, destruction, war, evil and disease. Negative frequencies are coarse, slow or stagnant, heavy, thick, lethargic, black and isolated. The dark side is asleep, lifeless and barren. Likewise, love represents all that is light, alive, creative, healing, joyful, energizing and fertile. As energetic bodies, within an energetic realm, we synchronize with similar energies. This is really huge, and may be hard to get your head around, but it’s also very simple. Thoughts and emotions are energies, which align themselves with compatible energies. The greatest minds, all religions, the sages, prophets and philosophers as well as Bob Dylan, John Lennon and every other person who ever had a quality thought, all said this: LOVE IS THE ANSWER. Love is light, Love is God, Love is the creative force, Love is freedom - because love aligns us with all that light represents. To be healthy, happy, creative, secure, energized, serene and loved requires staying in the light. Staying in the light obviously also means staying out of fear. I have already explained appropriate fear, but I now wish to put that aside and expose inappropriate fear for what it really is. To me, fear is my concept of Satan; an evil, destructive, paralysing force. I would suspect that every atrocity ever carried out was done so, on the motivation of fear. What motivates violence, wars, murders and suicides or evil, anger, hatred or prejudices? Peel away the layers again, and you will keep coming back to the same core – fear. Fear is imagination predicting the worst possible outcome. When the imagination is engaged in repetition and emotion, it becomes a belief. Our beliefs determine our actions and as the old saying goes, what you conceive and believe, you will achieve. For right or wrong, good or bad, this is the creative force within us all. We may feel sad and helpless when we look at the world, and many of the events taking place around us. We can become overwhelmed, to the point of depression, some feel rage and want to fight, and others feel paralysed and implode. There is so much injustice, poverty, waste, pollution and destruction. There are social and environmenta Innovative Internet Marketing On a Budget disapproval, disease and ultimately – death.When it comes to Internet marketing, you will find that any marketing is better than no marketing at all. Despite this, you may want to focus most of your time on innovative Internet marketing ideas. Innovative Internet marketing ideas are ideas that are fairly new.One of the few downsides to using innovative Internet marketing ideas is that since most have yet to be proven, because they are relatively new, you may not know if they are really worth or your time or your money. That is why there are a number of important factors that you should take into consideration, especially if you are planning on marketing your business while on a budget.If you are interested in marketing your business, but while on a budget, you can still do so. The only difference is that you will have a little bit more research to do than most others, namely business owners who have an unlimited marketing or advertising budget. As previously mentioned, innovative Internet email marketing ideas are ideas that are relatively new. That means that they have likely not been proved effective yet. 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Although business is all about taking risks, you may not It is vitally important to discern what appropriate and inappropriate fear is, as appropriate fear can and will protect us, and inappropriate fear can destroy us. Most of the time we don’t recognize it at all, so, it’s impossible to name it, let alone challenge it. The human condition has a huge emotional range and can appear quite fluid in its ability to change; we can be carried away or bounced around in a little cesspool of negative influences one minute, and then find ourselves lifted up and flying high the next. Emotions can be quite unpredictable, indefinable and often uncontrollable, and yet emotions can dominate, create or destroy us. Some people believe hate is the base emotion and love is the highest. Indifference is often considered to be the opposite of love, but it is my belief that both hate and indifference are by products of fear. The ultimate fear must be fear of death; being inevitable, we really should make peace with this and find it within ourselves to accept it. When we place fear in the realm of death, then we must place love in the realm of life. We are living anywhere between these polarities, and might view life as rhythms, vibrations and frequencies between polarities. We understand night and day, light and dark, coarse and fine, heavy and light, negative and positive, hate and love, thick and light and good and evil. When we consider all of life is energy, then we can place ourselves within the frequencies of these polarities. When fear is positioned at the darkest side of the polarity, we can include all of fears associates; hate greed, jealousy, anger, violence and poverty etc. The ‘dark side’ is also represented by death, decay, destruction, war, evil and disease. Negative frequencies are coarse, slow or stagnant, heavy, thick, lethargic, black and isolated. The dark side is asleep, lifeless and barren. Likewise, love represents all that is light, alive, creative, healing, joyful, energizing and fertile. As energetic bodies, within an energetic realm, we synchronize with similar energies. This is really huge, and may be hard to get your head around, but it’s also very simple. Thoughts and emotions are energies, which align themselves with compatible energies. The greatest minds, all religions, the sages, prophets and philosophers as well as Bob Dylan, John Lennon and every other person who ever had a quality thought, all said this: LOVE IS THE ANSWER. Love is light, Love is God, Love is the creative force, Love is freedom - because love aligns us with all that light represents. To be healthy, happy, creative, secure, energized, serene and loved requires staying in the light. Staying in the light obviously also means staying out of fear. I have already explained appropriate fear, but I now wish to put that aside and expose inappropriate fear for what it really is. To me, fear is my concept of Satan; an evil, destructive, paralysing force. I would suspect that every atrocity ever carried out was done so, on the motivation of fear. What motivates violence, wars, murders and suicides or evil, anger, hatred or prejudices? Peel away the layers again, and you will keep coming back to the same core – fear. Fear is imagination predicting the worst possible outcome. When the imagination is engaged in repetition and emotion, it becomes a belief. Our beliefs determine our actions and as the old saying goes, what you conceive and believe, you will achieve. For right or wrong, good or bad, this is the creative force within us all. We may feel sad and helpless when we look at the world, and many of the events taking place around us. We can become overwhelmed, to the point of depression, some feel rage and want to fight, and others feel paralysed and implode. There is so much injustice, poverty, waste, pollution and destruction. There are social and environmenta Finally, The Best Way To Burn Fat - Revealed d dark, coarse and fine, heavy and light, negative and positive, hate and love, thick and light and good and evil. When we consider all of life is energy, then we can place ourselves within the frequencies of these polarities.When it comes to losing weight, there are plenty of diet programs to choose from. However, whenever asked what the best way to burn fat is, the last thing I ever recommend is for the person to go on a diet.Diets are not the best way to burn fat, as most have a negative effect in the long run. Dieters often do not lose fat, but rather a combination of water, muscle tissue and some fat. As a result of this and the lack of nourishment from low-calorie diets, not only are they not the best way to burn fat but they are bad for your health too.In addition, when you sacrifice your muscle tissue as you often do when you go on a typical fad diet, your body starts to burn less calories, since muscle tissue require energy to maintain itself. This is anything but the best way to burn fat because it means you’ll find it easier than ever to gain fat when you stop dieting. Ever heard of yo-yo dieting? The best way to burn fat should prevent even the slightest chance of losing muscle tissue.The best way to burn fat should include lifestyle changes and involve building positive habits which contribute towards a healthy body. These changes should focus on speeding up your metabolism so your body uses up more calories, so that you can burn fat even while you rest, which is the best way to burn fat long-term.To do this, instead of drastically lowering calories, the best way to burn fat would involve spreading your meals out more often. Rather than eating 2-3 meals a day, have 4-6 small balanced meals. This “trick” is used all the time by bodybuilders to help them maintain a high metabolism and avoid fat gain, and the best way to burn fat should always include this.In fact, the best way to burn fat does not even have to involve counting calories, so long as you keep your portion sizes small, eating only until you’re satisfied and not trying to fill yourself at every sitting, and you avoid sugar and unhealthy fats. Another tip to help burn fat is to drink green tea with When fear is positioned at the darkest side of the polarity, we can include all of fears associates; hate greed, jealousy, anger, violence and poverty etc. The ‘dark side’ is also represented by death, decay, destruction, war, evil and disease. Negative frequencies are coarse, slow or stagnant, heavy, thick, lethargic, black and isolated. The dark side is asleep, lifeless and barren. Likewise, love represents all that is light, alive, creative, healing, joyful, energizing and fertile. As energetic bodies, within an energetic realm, we synchronize with similar energies. This is really huge, and may be hard to get your head around, but it’s also very simple. Thoughts and emotions are energies, which align themselves with compatible energies. The greatest minds, all religions, the sages, prophets and philosophers as well as Bob Dylan, John Lennon and every other person who ever had a quality thought, all said this: LOVE IS THE ANSWER. Love is light, Love is God, Love is the creative force, Love is freedom - because love aligns us with all that light represents. To be healthy, happy, creative, secure, energized, serene and loved requires staying in the light. Staying in the light obviously also means staying out of fear. I have already explained appropriate fear, but I now wish to put that aside and expose inappropriate fear for what it really is. To me, fear is my concept of Satan; an evil, destructive, paralysing force. I would suspect that every atrocity ever carried out was done so, on the motivation of fear. What motivates violence, wars, murders and suicides or evil, anger, hatred or prejudices? Peel away the layers again, and you will keep coming back to the same core – fear. Fear is imagination predicting the worst possible outcome. When the imagination is engaged in repetition and emotion, it becomes a belief. Our beliefs determine our actions and as the old saying goes, what you conceive and believe, you will achieve. For right or wrong, good or bad, this is the creative force within us all. We may feel sad and helpless when we look at the world, and many of the events taking place around us. We can become overwhelmed, to the point of depression, some feel rage and want to fight, and others feel paralysed and implode. There is so much injustice, poverty, waste, pollution and destruction. There are social and environmenta Blogging Explained in Simple Terms presents. To be healthy, happy, creative, secure, energized, serene and loved requires staying in the light. Staying in the light obviously also means staying out of fear.By now, if you haven’t heard of Blogging, you must be in a coma, seldom watch or listen to the news, or never use the internet. Bloggers are the newest and most popular ‘authentic’ voice on the internet.Blogging DefinedFirst, let’s begin with an accurate definition of Blogging. Blog is short for Web Log. To blog is to upload text onto the same place on the internet daily, weekly, monthly, or at least with some predictable frequency. The best bloggers are trained professional writers, people who write because it’s their passion, and politically inclined individuals who need a bully pulpit for their ideas. Some bloggers are traveling long distance over an extended period of time, and they want to communicate with family and friends. The traveling bloggers do not have enough time to e- mail everyone – so they blog. Family and friends can check their blog for updates on their whereabouts, their adventures, mishaps, and golden opportunities while they’re on the road.Is Blog a Noun, Verb, or Adjective?I have seen Blog used as a noun, verb and adjective. This means blogging is a thing, an active principle, and a way to describe something. If you want to blog (verb) and do it well, the best advice is to blog on a subject you know quite a good deal about. Chances are, most people who blog with a good solid background in their subject area, do not readily run out of good material. Also, people who read blogs (noun) constructed in this way will walk away enriched, educated on a particular subject, and are more likely to return.Blogging as Gossip or for ProfitsAs a professional writer and a creative writer, I am enjoying the popularity of the blogger (noun). Why? Because bloggers are bringing back respect for the individual voice in writing. Their popularity is sometimes based upon the depth of their knowledge on a particular subject. Or, as in the case of bloggers who helped reveal the true identit I have already explained appropriate fear, but I now wish to put that aside and expose inappropriate fear for what it really is. To me, fear is my concept of Satan; an evil, destructive, paralysing force. I would suspect that every atrocity ever carried out was done so, on the motivation of fear. What motivates violence, wars, murders and suicides or evil, anger, hatred or prejudices? Peel away the layers again, and you will keep coming back to the same core – fear. Fear is imagination predicting the worst possible outcome. When the imagination is engaged in repetition and emotion, it becomes a belief. Our beliefs determine our actions and as the old saying goes, what you conceive and believe, you will achieve. For right or wrong, good or bad, this is the creative force within us all. We may feel sad and helpless when we look at the world, and many of the events taking place around us. We can become overwhelmed, to the point of depression, some feel rage and want to fight, and others feel paralysed and implode. There is so much injustice, poverty, waste, pollution and destruction. There are social and environmental issues and greedy, incompetent and spineless governments. Even when we bring ourselves away from the world stage, and just focus on our own little realities, we still find so much to analyse, consider, protect and fight for. Sure, we worry about aging, our health, finances, families and jobs. We worry about the quality and quantity of our food, pollution of our rivers and air, crime and the decline of communities. We argue that an intelligent and responsible person needs to be concerned about such things, and I agree; apathy and indifference or prancing around like Pollyanna in her “happy place” won’t make the world a better place. There are problems, big and important problems, and those problems do need solutions. Problems are solved by intelligent application of ideas and actions, not by obsessive worry, and not by imagined fears. Herein lies the crux of the issue: Worry and fear serve no purpose, other than to use up creative intelligence and attract destructive energies. All problems have two possible applications and they are: Fix it or accept it. 1. Find a solution to change, improve or eliminate the problem. 2. Or accept that, what is – is. That is F.F F. Find it, Fix it or Forget it. The third and most popular application seems to be, ‘Worry about it until it disappears’ and this does not and will never work. Worry, by the way, is fear’s little brother, the same genetic code if you like. Fear is big and powerful and jumps around like a trampolinist in our solar plexus, whereas worry is a silent and sneaky, tenacious little character, that you will hardly notice until the damage is done. Symbology In previous chapters, I have symbolized fear and worry, by giving them identities, so, I will just bring them back now for another look. They are the Chattering Monkey, the Barking Dog and the Witch. The chattering monkey symbolized the constant dialogue which goes on and on in our heads, when we are obsessively worrying. He engages us in a prolonged and exaggerated drama and reinforces our victim status. The chattering monkey, as a symbol for fear, demonstrates how we take a reasonably small fear, compare it to everything that ever happened before, and clump it all together and exaggerate it. Words like, nobody, everyone, always, never and forever, have this one problem sweeping across your past, present and future and gathering everyone and everything that ever hurt or offended us. The chattering monkey is a master at making big out of little. The barking dog, I have now decided, is a toothless, barking dog. Dogs are trained to bark, they are hardly ever trained to bite. Barking dogs will scare you away or stop you in your tracks by the implication that they may bite. We don’t even need to see the dog, it could be a miniature poodle for all we know, but if it barks we will give it power and control, and accept that we must back away. Symbolically, the barking dog is the reason we don’t do things that we do want to do or the reason we do things which we don’t want to do. Peer pressure can be a barking dog, shyness or insecurity, fear of being rejected or abandoned, are probably all barking dog fears. The witch is a complete fabrication, she never existed at all. For some unknown reason, when we are insecure, scared or threatened in any way, be that real or imagined, we justify our fear by inventing a greater threat than the one at hand. I guess we feel humiliated, small, afraid, powerless and weak for not being able to conquer our fear or problem, so we somehow excuse, justify or forgive ourselves, by inventing a greater threat. The problem with the witch is that we convince ourselves and others, that she exists, and we actively involve ourselves in focusing all of our energies in dealing with her, just burning ourselves out and sabotaging our lives. Symbolically, jealousy can be a witch, imagining your partner is cheating on you when there is absolutely no reason other than your own insecurity, is how a relationship can be destroyed by a witch. Hearing a noise outside your window at night can also be a witch, as you freeze with fear and convince yourself it is a psycho rapist. Some people convince themselves that entire races of people, people they have never even met, are all criminals or terrorists – that’s a lot of witches! The secret to controlling fear is in first exposing it for what it is. Too often, we focus on other people or the events themselves or else we convert fear into other emotions like self-righteousness, anger, insecurity, greed or any number of deceptive responses. If you are feeling despondent, indifferent, isolated, fatigued, depressed or any emotion that is dark, you need to name it and then claim it. You will be amazed at how many emotions mask fear, but once you can see it, you can begin to challenge or dismantle it. The reason I have bought in the chattering monkey, the barking dog and the witch is to save you from hours of verbal ping-pong. Long drawn out analytical dialogue will drive you crazy, and is really a little self-indulgent and mostly unproductive. Imagined fears and exaggerated fears need to be stopped and dismissed, as soon as they are exposed. The subcon
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