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Water Coolers Play a Part in the Fundamentals of Health
Did you know water coolers have been in service from as early as the middle of the 1900? Amazing enough its true, even back then researchers and people in the fields of health were already aware of the importance of water and the value it played in our daily in-take of staying fit and healthy. With rapid advancement water coolers have branched out into business and homes world wide. In facts office water coolers are so common in most business establishments is surprising to hear some one say we don't have one when you ask.Business have found that bottle water coolers, are very convenient to use, not to mention just how important it is to offer cool fresh water to their employees
b>Did you know water coolers have been in service from as early as the middle of the 1900? Amazing enough its true, even back then researchers and people in the fields of health were already aware of the importance of water and the value it played in our daily in-take of staying fit and healthy. With rapid advancement water coolers have branched out into business and homes world wide. In facts office water coolers are so common in most business establishments is surprising to hear some one say we don't have one when you ask.Business have found that bottle water coolers, are very convenient to use, not to mention just how important it is to offer cool fresh water to their employees
Well I believe in two key approaches.
Approach No.1
I learned this from a self esteem colleague, Jack Canfield (perhaps better known for his 'Chicken Soup For The Soul' series).
Jack says: "Stuff Happens"
"But it's how you RESPOND to it that matters."
Who cares who 'created it', whose 'baggage' it is, whether it means I am a 'good' or 'bad' person.
Find a way to take action and respond and you'll feel a whole lot better.
Swim around in the agony of your guilt about creating it and you'll feel a whole lot worse. New Age Guilt. A whole self help industry is built on it.
Approach No.2
The second is to re-condition yourself to believe that the way you are right now is totally OK.
THERE IS NOTHING 'WRONG' WITH YOU!
We all nee
Predictions of Trends in ELT for 2006: What to Expect in the Upcoming Year
English Language Teaching and learning methodology and didactic approaches have been in an almost constant state of flux since the advent of the Grammar – Translation method documented by German-American anthropologist Franz Boas and the Danish linguist Otto Jespersen during the early 20th century. From these beginnings through a range of audio-lingual, interactive and communicative methods to CALL and ESP, there has been a virtually continuous research and development in English language acquisition and learning. What though, are some further developments we might look forward to during 2006 considering recent trends in ELT?Prediction of ELT Trends for 2006 In view of both pas
Owing mostly to the proliferation of the 'self help' genre ... books ... seminars
... chat shows ... a relatively new phenomena is plaguing many people's consciousness.English Language Teaching and learning methodology and didactic approaches have been in an almost constant state of flux since the advent of the Grammar – Translation method documented by German-American anthropologist Franz Boas and the Danish linguist Otto Jespersen during the early 20th century. From these beginnings through a range of audio-lingual, interactive and communicative methods to CALL and ESP, there has been a virtually continuous research and development in English language acquisition and learning. What though, are some further developments we might look forward to during 2006 considering recent trends in ELT?Prediction of ELT Trends for 2006 In view of both pas
My colleagues and I call it 'New Age Guilt'.
And what is worse ... it can seriously devastate self esteem and eat into our feelings of confidence.
I know, I know, you want to know if you've 'got' it ... and whether you have or not, how you should be avoiding it.
And this is precisely my point.
The world of marketing has managed to convince us that we are vulnerable to just about any affliction - or that without some 'product' (that they of course happen to be marketing), we are somehow not completely fulfilled. (Hey I'm a marketer too ... don't think I don't know the tricks! Of course how you use them for good in the world is the real key to positive karma.)
So even as I tell you that you may be suffering from 'New Age Guilt', you might already be thinking about the terrible consequences this could have on your life/family/marriage/relationships/finances.Simply because we have been conditioned to think that way.
OK so far ... now let's take the case of someone who is having a little trouble in life. Not feeling too good about themselves or their present situation, they look for help. Self help perhaps.
And after a little research - maybe in the local bookstore, on the 'net, watching a little Oprah, they come to the conclusion that they 'have' low self esteem.
Now instead of the relief you think they might feel at finding the supposed cause to their problem, things start to go downhill from here. The first onset of New Age Guilt begins to creep in.
Because now, they research a little further still and are variously told by experts that self esteem is largely self produced. Hmmm, needs a little more research ... um, exactly how is it 'self produced'?
Well you see, "thought is creative" (true). "And from our thoughts spring our reality" (hmmm, but do go on ...)."So our current reality is created by our own selves" (It is? Wow.). "And you need to 'take responsibility' for what you have created" (You what? Are you saying I did this to myself?).
"In fact, you created this mess ... so you better shape up and work out what 'baggage' you must be carrying; then once you clear it out, everything will be fine".
Oh no. It's all my fault. I should have known it was all my fault. I created this mess. I'm not really a very good person, I made everything bad around me and what's worse I don't even know how I did it. I'm awful. What am I going to do? I don't feel good, I've got low self esteem and I've just found out it's all my own fault.
Inspiring isn't it?
Yet I've personally known people who have totally taken this on board as 'the truth' and then use it to beat themselves up even further.
"OH NO, YOU'RE MAKING IT WORSE!", I silently yell to them, because if I point out they've taken on a flawed belief (That "I am responsible for everything around me"), they'll feel EVEN WORSE!
But it does make ones life as a coach or counselor somewhat difficult.
Because to first work with low self esteem - and indeed low self confidence - one needs to empower the person to find some light at the end of the tunnel, to open their own door just a crack and to like what they see inside ... and not the opposite!
So how to do this?
Well I believe in two key approaches.
Approach No.1
I learned this from a self esteem colleague, Jack Canfield (perhaps better known for his 'Chicken Soup For The Soul' series).
Jack says: "Stuff Happens"
"But it's how you RESPOND to it that matters."
Who cares who 'created it', whose 'baggage' it is, whether it means I am a 'good' or 'bad' person.
Find a way to take action and respond and you'll feel a whole lot better.
Swim around in the agony of your guilt about creating it and you'll feel a whole lot worse. New Age Guilt. A whole self help industry is built on it.
Approach No.2
The second is to re-condition yourself to believe that the way you are right now is totally OK.
THERE IS NOTHING 'WRONG' WITH YOU!
We all need
Cherry Pick Internet Mortgage Leads
If you are a loan officer or mortgage broker on the market for a good quality internet mortgage lead, keep in mind that cherry picking your leads may be the best way to go.In short, having the ability to view your lead before you buy it, pretty much can’t be beat. This way you know exactly what you are getting before you buy it.Another thing that you should look for when it comes to internet mortgage leads is the quality of the lead.By quality I mean, how fresh is the lead? Just because you are given the ability to look at the lead before you buy it does not mean that the lead has not been recycled many times.Make sure that you do your research. Look for the
positive karma.)If you are a loan officer or mortgage broker on the market for a good quality internet mortgage lead, keep in mind that cherry picking your leads may be the best way to go.In short, having the ability to view your lead before you buy it, pretty much can’t be beat. This way you know exactly what you are getting before you buy it.Another thing that you should look for when it comes to internet mortgage leads is the quality of the lead.By quality I mean, how fresh is the lead? Just because you are given the ability to look at the lead before you buy it does not mean that the lead has not been recycled many times.Make sure that you do your research. Look for the
So even as I tell you that you may be suffering from 'New Age Guilt', you might already be thinking about the terrible consequences this could have on your life/family/marriage/relationships/finances.Simply because we have been conditioned to think that way.
OK so far ... now let's take the case of someone who is having a little trouble in life. Not feeling too good about themselves or their present situation, they look for help. Self help perhaps.
And after a little research - maybe in the local bookstore, on the 'net, watching a little Oprah, they come to the conclusion that they 'have' low self esteem.
Now instead of the relief you think they might feel at finding the supposed cause to their problem, things start to go downhill from here. The first onset of New Age Guilt begins to creep in.
Because now, they research a little further still and are variously told by experts that self esteem is largely self produced. Hmmm, needs a little more research ... um, exactly how is it 'self produced'?
Well you see, "thought is creative" (true). "And from our thoughts spring our reality" (hmmm, but do go on ...)."So our current reality is created by our own selves" (It is? Wow.). "And you need to 'take responsibility' for what you have created" (You what? Are you saying I did this to myself?).
"In fact, you created this mess ... so you better shape up and work out what 'baggage' you must be carrying; then once you clear it out, everything will be fine".
Oh no. It's all my fault. I should have known it was all my fault. I created this mess. I'm not really a very good person, I made everything bad around me and what's worse I don't even know how I did it. I'm awful. What am I going to do? I don't feel good, I've got low self esteem and I've just found out it's all my own fault.
Inspiring isn't it?
Yet I've personally known people who have totally taken this on board as 'the truth' and then use it to beat themselves up even further.
"OH NO, YOU'RE MAKING IT WORSE!", I silently yell to them, because if I point out they've taken on a flawed belief (That "I am responsible for everything around me"), they'll feel EVEN WORSE!
But it does make ones life as a coach or counselor somewhat difficult.
Because to first work with low self esteem - and indeed low self confidence - one needs to empower the person to find some light at the end of the tunnel, to open their own door just a crack and to like what they see inside ... and not the opposite!
So how to do this?
Well I believe in two key approaches.
Approach No.1
I learned this from a self esteem colleague, Jack Canfield (perhaps better known for his 'Chicken Soup For The Soul' series).
Jack says: "Stuff Happens"
"But it's how you RESPOND to it that matters."
Who cares who 'created it', whose 'baggage' it is, whether it means I am a 'good' or 'bad' person.
Find a way to take action and respond and you'll feel a whole lot better.
Swim around in the agony of your guilt about creating it and you'll feel a whole lot worse. New Age Guilt. A whole self help industry is built on it.
Approach No.2
The second is to re-condition yourself to believe that the way you are right now is totally OK.
THERE IS NOTHING 'WRONG' WITH YOU!
We all nee
Energy Bars - Four Reasons Why They Aren't Candy Bars
A common misconception of many consumers is that energy bars are mislabeled candy bars. This cannot be farther from the truth, as there are numerous differences between energy bars and candy bars.Energy Bars are Full of Protein and Fiber Protein and fiber are crucial to helping you feel full while eating less. In choosing healthier alternatives to candy bars, look for energy bars with higher amounts of protein and fiber. Energy Bars high in protein and fiber will help curb your appetite, rather than increasing your hunger after you consume a candy bar with empty calories. Sugar, found in every candy bar, is digested quickly by your body, increasing your bl
use now, they research a little further still and are variously told by experts
that self esteem is largely self produced. Hmmm, needs a little more research
... um, exactly how is it 'self produced'?A common misconception of many consumers is that energy bars are mislabeled candy bars. This cannot be farther from the truth, as there are numerous differences between energy bars and candy bars.Energy Bars are Full of Protein and Fiber Protein and fiber are crucial to helping you feel full while eating less. In choosing healthier alternatives to candy bars, look for energy bars with higher amounts of protein and fiber. Energy Bars high in protein and fiber will help curb your appetite, rather than increasing your hunger after you consume a candy bar with empty calories. Sugar, found in every candy bar, is digested quickly by your body, increasing your bl
Well you see, "thought is creative" (true). "And from our thoughts spring our reality" (hmmm, but do go on ...)."So our current reality is created by our own selves" (It is? Wow.). "And you need to 'take responsibility' for what you have created" (You what? Are you saying I did this to myself?).
"In fact, you created this mess ... so you better shape up and work out what 'baggage' you must be carrying; then once you clear it out, everything will be fine".
Oh no. It's all my fault. I should have known it was all my fault. I created this mess. I'm not really a very good person, I made everything bad around me and what's worse I don't even know how I did it. I'm awful. What am I going to do? I don't feel good, I've got low self esteem and I've just found out it's all my own fault.
Inspiring isn't it?
Yet I've personally known people who have totally taken this on board as 'the truth' and then use it to beat themselves up even further.
"OH NO, YOU'RE MAKING IT WORSE!", I silently yell to them, because if I point out they've taken on a flawed belief (That "I am responsible for everything around me"), they'll feel EVEN WORSE!
But it does make ones life as a coach or counselor somewhat difficult.
Because to first work with low self esteem - and indeed low self confidence - one needs to empower the person to find some light at the end of the tunnel, to open their own door just a crack and to like what they see inside ... and not the opposite!
So how to do this?
Well I believe in two key approaches.
Approach No.1
I learned this from a self esteem colleague, Jack Canfield (perhaps better known for his 'Chicken Soup For The Soul' series).
Jack says: "Stuff Happens"
"But it's how you RESPOND to it that matters."
Who cares who 'created it', whose 'baggage' it is, whether it means I am a 'good' or 'bad' person.
Find a way to take action and respond and you'll feel a whole lot better.
Swim around in the agony of your guilt about creating it and you'll feel a whole lot worse. New Age Guilt. A whole self help industry is built on it.
Approach No.2
The second is to re-condition yourself to believe that the way you are right now is totally OK.
THERE IS NOTHING 'WRONG' WITH YOU!
We all nee
Selling Multiple Products? Avoid These Top Blunders
When your web site sells more than a dozen items, you may face a fierce challenge of helping shoppers find what they are looking for. You'll need to classify products into categories, but these will serve as obstacles and even deal killers if those categories do not match those in the heads of shoppers.I've seen again and again web sites using classifications that aren't known or understood by a portion of their customers. For instance, I once wanted to buy T-shirts and went to the site of a famous catalog company, where I found a category called "shirts." So far, so good. But then I had to choose between a category called "woven" or another called "knitted."
it. I'm awful. What am I going to do? I don't
feel good, I've got low self esteem and I've just found out it's all my own fault.When your web site sells more than a dozen items, you may face a fierce challenge of helping shoppers find what they are looking for. You'll need to classify products into categories, but these will serve as obstacles and even deal killers if those categories do not match those in the heads of shoppers.I've seen again and again web sites using classifications that aren't known or understood by a portion of their customers. For instance, I once wanted to buy T-shirts and went to the site of a famous catalog company, where I found a category called "shirts." So far, so good. But then I had to choose between a category called "woven" or another called "knitted."
Inspiring isn't it?
Yet I've personally known people who have totally taken this on board as 'the truth' and then use it to beat themselves up even further.
"OH NO, YOU'RE MAKING IT WORSE!", I silently yell to them, because if I point out they've taken on a flawed belief (That "I am responsible for everything around me"), they'll feel EVEN WORSE!
But it does make ones life as a coach or counselor somewhat difficult.
Because to first work with low self esteem - and indeed low self confidence - one needs to empower the person to find some light at the end of the tunnel, to open their own door just a crack and to like what they see inside ... and not the opposite!
So how to do this?
Well I believe in two key approaches.
Approach No.1
I learned this from a self esteem colleague, Jack Canfield (perhaps better known for his 'Chicken Soup For The Soul' series).
Jack says: "Stuff Happens"
"But it's how you RESPOND to it that matters."
Who cares who 'created it', whose 'baggage' it is, whether it means I am a 'good' or 'bad' person.
Find a way to take action and respond and you'll feel a whole lot better.
Swim around in the agony of your guilt about creating it and you'll feel a whole lot worse. New Age Guilt. A whole self help industry is built on it.
Approach No.2
The second is to re-condition yourself to believe that the way you are right now is totally OK.
THERE IS NOTHING 'WRONG' WITH YOU!
We all nee
Journal-Keeping: A Place for Healing, Self-discovery, and Creative Flow
I have a best friend, therapist and personal organizer I take with me everywhere. It is compact, requires as little or as much time as I desire and is always ready to offer support, guidance, comfort, or laughter. It costs very little and never asks for anything in return, though I feel a yearning to be with it daily. I know it will never let me down. A journal can be far more than a place to record daily events or idle thoughts. Used purposefully, it can be a catalyst for personal growth, problem solving, and a path to creativity. When used for writing about upsetting events, journaling can actually improve immune system functioning, resolve stress, and provide psychologic
b>I have a best friend, therapist and personal organizer I take with me everywhere. It is compact, requires as little or as much time as I desire and is always ready to offer support, guidance, comfort, or laughter. It costs very little and never asks for anything in return, though I feel a yearning to be with it daily. I know it will never let me down. A journal can be far more than a place to record daily events or idle thoughts. Used purposefully, it can be a catalyst for personal growth, problem solving, and a path to creativity. When used for writing about upsetting events, journaling can actually improve immune system functioning, resolve stress, and provide psychologic
Well I believe in two key approaches.
Approach No.1
I learned this from a self esteem colleague, Jack Canfield (perhaps better known for his 'Chicken Soup For The Soul' series).
Jack says: "Stuff Happens"
"But it's how you RESPOND to it that matters."
Who cares who 'created it', whose 'baggage' it is, whether it means I am a 'good' or 'bad' person.
Find a way to take action and respond and you'll feel a whole lot better.
Swim around in the agony of your guilt about creating it and you'll feel a whole lot worse. New Age Guilt. A whole self help industry is built on it.
Approach No.2
The second is to re-condition yourself to believe that the way you are right now is totally OK.
THERE IS NOTHING 'WRONG' WITH YOU!
We all need to accept that everything we say and do is based upon the fact that we are doing the best we can with what we know. It's all you can ever do.
Do not underestimate the power of affirmations.
The next time you find yourself being drawn into feeling unworthy or low in confidence because you might have some new-fangled 'syndrome' or are lacking in some vital product, say to yourself:
"I am perfect the way I am right now."
"I accept myself the way I am right now."
"At any given moment, I am doing the best I can."
Focus on your own continued improvement.
What skills can you learn to grow, develop and maximize your range of positive emotions and positive thoughts?
THAT is how to raise self esteem.
Now go and do something to feel good. Call someone, kiss someone, make someone's day.
Have a great day!
© 2005, Robert Scanlon, selfesteemplus
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