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Thou Shalt Prosper
The Creator of heaven and earth says: "Beloved, I wish above all things that you may prosper and be in health, even as your soul prospers" (3 John 1:2).If they obey and serve him, they shall spend their days in prosperity, and their years in pleasures (Job 36:11).Here are some simple ways you can obey and serve the Lord daily, whereby you shall begin to prosper.1. Be strong spiritually and courageously obey God despite the cultural reistance.Only be thou strong and very courageous, that thou mayest observe to do according to all the law, which Moses my servant commanded thee: turn not from it to the right hand or to the left, that thou mayest prosper withersoever thou goest. This book of the law shall not depart out of your mouth; but you shall meditate therein day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then you shall make your way prosperous, and then you shall have good success

eating themselves over again ( = losing power)

Maybe yapping like a small dog ( = how ridiculous is this)

Your objective here is to make your perception of them so altered that it is no longer possible to have your normal automatic response.

This will give you a breather to be able to respond differently (Step 2)

OK, now practice the above, getting ready to open the curtains.

Now OPEN THE CURTAINS and notice how your response is already different.

You only have to 'scratch the record/CD' a small amount for it to never play properly again. Your mind is the same.

Good. Let's go to Step 2 and give you something to say.

Step 2. "Tak
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In this day and age most businesses consider having their own website; from informational based to the most advanced and complex e-commerce site. For the large enterprise, this become a vital part of their day to day operation, their web site embeds complex applications that exchanges critical information between their partners and clients. Web services are sometime employed in order to simplify their transactions and easily exchange critical information across their suppliers, clients and partners.Small businesses however face a different situation, majority of them don’t really utilize their web site’s full potential, and they become satisfied with just having a dot-com after their business name, important factor are then ignored and become enslaved by their own contentment.Time constraints and financial consideration are among the reasonsMajor small business owners find it difficult to upgrade or enhance their website and place useful tools and simple applications that would help visitors or guess feel mo
A reader recently wrote and asked me this question: "How can a person have high self esteem when living with the negative energy of a partner? How can one keep oneself strong or respond differently?"

My response documents 3 key steps to take that we can all use to help improve any dysfunctional interactions.

Firstly I would say that if there is any abusive or violent nature to your situation then you must seek professional help - either as a couple or at least just for you alone. You don't deserve to experience this and a professional counselor can definitely help.

From the little I know so far, here is my response, I hope it helps you.

I would approach this in 3 ways.

Breaking "The More, The More" pattern
"Taking the wind out of the sails"
Creating a personal linked negative-to-positive state change

Step 1. Breaking "The More, The More" pattern.

There is usually a reactive loop to these situations - especially so in close partner-relationships and longer term relationships.

Over time, we learn to 'react' in a certain way to the other person and it is difficult to change. It becomes an automatic, pre-programmed responses.

Eventually this escalates, and so "the more the other person does 'X' (something specific)", "the more I do 'Y' (my specific response)" and "The more I do 'Y' ... the more they do 'X' again ..." and so on until one feels like exploding.

We must find a way to break this vicious circle.

Without placing the 'blame' on you, here is something to consider: "For things to change, first I must change". This seems to be a philosophy you are OK with given that you are asking for advice on "how to respond differently".

So we are going to change your automatic response to your mate's negative energy.

I want you to imagine that your partner, along with their most annoying/upsetting/frustrating negative energy are up on a theater stage in front of you, behind a pair of curtains.

In a moment the curtains will open and you will see them behaving negatively (in the way that you want to change your reaction to).

But first you will decide how you will see/hear them differently.

When the curtains open, I want you to make them appear visually different (in your mind's eye).

Maybe tiny like a mouse ( = no power)
Maybe in slow motion (= giving you time to think)
Maybe constantly running around in circles confused ( = trivializing their approach)
Maybe totally bright pink ( = you can't associate this image of them with negativity)

Now hear them in your own mind differently.

Maybe speaking all squeaky ( = they can't possibly be serious)
Maybe having difficulty getting words out, repeating themselves over again ( = losing power)
Maybe yapping like a small dog ( = how ridiculous is this)

Your objective here is to make your perception of them so altered that it is no longer possible to have your normal automatic response.

This will give you a breather to be able to respond differently (Step 2)

OK, now practice the above, getting ready to open the curtains.

Now OPEN THE CURTAINS and notice how your response is already different.

You only have to 'scratch the record/CD' a small amount for it to never play properly again. Your mind is the same.

Good. Let's go to Step 2 and give you something to say.

Step 2. "Taki
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Cash can be hard to get, at times, and the debt can pile up, but if you own your own home it may be much easier than you think. A home equity loan allows you to take out a loan based on the built up cash value of your home. Here is what you need to look for in order to get a good deal on a home equity loan.How It WorksA home equity loan is worth the amount of money that you now have invested in your house. For instance, if you house is worth $250,000 on the market, and you still have $155,000 on your existing mortgage, then you have an equity value of the difference - $95,000, in this case. That means that many lenders would be glad to give you a loan worth up to $95,000, as a second mortgage, or home equity loan.Two Kinds of MortgagesWhen you apply for a home equity loan, there are two kinds that you might get. The first kind, called a home equity loan, simply gives you the money - like any other loan. You are free to use the money as you want. The other kind is called a home equity line of cr
b>Breaking "The More, The More" pattern
"Taking the wind out of the sails"
Creating a personal linked negative-to-positive state change
Step 1. Breaking "The More, The More" pattern.

There is usually a reactive loop to these situations - especially so in close partner-relationships and longer term relationships.

Over time, we learn to 'react' in a certain way to the other person and it is difficult to change. It becomes an automatic, pre-programmed responses.

Eventually this escalates, and so "the more the other person does 'X' (something specific)", "the more I do 'Y' (my specific response)" and "The more I do 'Y' ... the more they do 'X' again ..." and so on until one feels like exploding.

We must find a way to break this vicious circle.

Without placing the 'blame' on you, here is something to consider: "For things to change, first I must change". This seems to be a philosophy you are OK with given that you are asking for advice on "how to respond differently".

So we are going to change your automatic response to your mate's negative energy.

I want you to imagine that your partner, along with their most annoying/upsetting/frustrating negative energy are up on a theater stage in front of you, behind a pair of curtains.

In a moment the curtains will open and you will see them behaving negatively (in the way that you want to change your reaction to).

But first you will decide how you will see/hear them differently.

When the curtains open, I want you to make them appear visually different (in your mind's eye).

Maybe tiny like a mouse ( = no power)
Maybe in slow motion (= giving you time to think)
Maybe constantly running around in circles confused ( = trivializing their approach)
Maybe totally bright pink ( = you can't associate this image of them with negativity)

Now hear them in your own mind differently.

Maybe speaking all squeaky ( = they can't possibly be serious)
Maybe having difficulty getting words out, repeating themselves over again ( = losing power)
Maybe yapping like a small dog ( = how ridiculous is this)

Your objective here is to make your perception of them so altered that it is no longer possible to have your normal automatic response.

This will give you a breather to be able to respond differently (Step 2)

OK, now practice the above, getting ready to open the curtains.

Now OPEN THE CURTAINS and notice how your response is already different.

You only have to 'scratch the record/CD' a small amount for it to never play properly again. Your mind is the same.

Good. Let's go to Step 2 and give you something to say.

Step 2. "Tak
Removing All World Religions; Does It Make Sense?
With all the conflicts in the World one could say in observation that perhaps religion is much to blame. Why is it that the human species cannot get past these fictitious religious concepts and get on with cooperating together in a common cause? Many have come to the defense of religion and say that much of the rules of religion of the past helped humans from doing things, which might cause problems for them.Indeed much of this is true and yes of course and I have read "Cows, Pigs, Wars and Witches" also. If you have not, well you should buy the book today and read it too and see which traditions benefited the population bases of past periods. This is how Religion Works and perhaps all it is really good for. But we are past religion now as the world becomes closer together.So, really it is time to ditch the church and all World Religions, as they are not able to serve the role they once did. It really is time to knock off this non-sense. Cheap attire, ridiculous guilt trips, silly tales and move the human species forward
..." and so on until one feels like exploding.

We must find a way to break this vicious circle.

Without placing the 'blame' on you, here is something to consider: "For things to change, first I must change". This seems to be a philosophy you are OK with given that you are asking for advice on "how to respond differently".

So we are going to change your automatic response to your mate's negative energy.

I want you to imagine that your partner, along with their most annoying/upsetting/frustrating negative energy are up on a theater stage in front of you, behind a pair of curtains.

In a moment the curtains will open and you will see them behaving negatively (in the way that you want to change your reaction to).

But first you will decide how you will see/hear them differently.

When the curtains open, I want you to make them appear visually different (in your mind's eye).

Maybe tiny like a mouse ( = no power)
Maybe in slow motion (= giving you time to think)
Maybe constantly running around in circles confused ( = trivializing their approach)
Maybe totally bright pink ( = you can't associate this image of them with negativity)

Now hear them in your own mind differently.

Maybe speaking all squeaky ( = they can't possibly be serious)
Maybe having difficulty getting words out, repeating themselves over again ( = losing power)
Maybe yapping like a small dog ( = how ridiculous is this)

Your objective here is to make your perception of them so altered that it is no longer possible to have your normal automatic response.

This will give you a breather to be able to respond differently (Step 2)

OK, now practice the above, getting ready to open the curtains.

Now OPEN THE CURTAINS and notice how your response is already different.

You only have to 'scratch the record/CD' a small amount for it to never play properly again. Your mind is the same.

Good. Let's go to Step 2 and give you something to say.

Step 2. "Tak
Better Brand Research: What Customers Want
Several years ago I came across one of the most useful and practical articles on market research I have ever read -- “How To Turn Customer Input into Innovation” by Anthony Ulwick.Published in the January 2002 Harvard Business Review, the article briefly outlined a methodology and set of tools for gathering customer input in a way that actually drives product innovation. In addition, the article illustrated how Cordis -- a medical device manufacturer specializing in products for interventional vascular medicine -- used Ulwick’s approach to innovate the heart stent and gain market leadership in the angioplasty balloon market. As a result, Cordis’ stock went from $20 to $109 per share when it was acquired by Johnson and Johnson.Now, Ulwick has updated his tools and provided a more comprehensive look at his methodology in his recently released book, What Customers Want McGraw Hill). This book should be required readying for anyone involved in product development and marketing. Partly because it offers a comprehensive, st
our reaction to).

But first you will decide how you will see/hear them differently.

When the curtains open, I want you to make them appear visually different (in your mind's eye).

Maybe tiny like a mouse ( = no power)
Maybe in slow motion (= giving you time to think)
Maybe constantly running around in circles confused ( = trivializing their approach)
Maybe totally bright pink ( = you can't associate this image of them with negativity)

Now hear them in your own mind differently.

Maybe speaking all squeaky ( = they can't possibly be serious)
Maybe having difficulty getting words out, repeating themselves over again ( = losing power)
Maybe yapping like a small dog ( = how ridiculous is this)

Your objective here is to make your perception of them so altered that it is no longer possible to have your normal automatic response.

This will give you a breather to be able to respond differently (Step 2)

OK, now practice the above, getting ready to open the curtains.

Now OPEN THE CURTAINS and notice how your response is already different.

You only have to 'scratch the record/CD' a small amount for it to never play properly again. Your mind is the same.

Good. Let's go to Step 2 and give you something to say.

Step 2. "Tak
Publishing E-Books Made Simple
Ever wonder how much it would cost to publish an e-book? Well it’s not much more then it would cost to get out of bed in the morning. In other words publishing an e-book costs nothing but a few minutes of your time. Within a few minutes your hard work will be displayed throughout the internet for anyone with a connection and a computer to access. Publishing your e-book is as easy as checking your email, the trick is however, to know where to publish it.Print on demand, also known as POD is one way to publish your work. Print on demand publishing has grown at a feverish rate since its introduction over a decade ago. Print on demand is a technology that offers publishing companies the money saving ability to print one book at a time, and still make a profit from it. What does this mean for the aspiring author? It means that you won’t have to convince a major publishing imprint that your effort is worthy of 30,000 copies to get it printed. That means that for a modest design, edit, and marketing fee you can have your book available
eating themselves over again ( = losing power)
Maybe yapping like a small dog ( = how ridiculous is this)
Your objective here is to make your perception of them so altered that it is no longer possible to have your normal automatic response.

This will give you a breather to be able to respond differently (Step 2)

OK, now practice the above, getting ready to open the curtains.

Now OPEN THE CURTAINS and notice how your response is already different.

You only have to 'scratch the record/CD' a small amount for it to never play properly again. Your mind is the same.

Good. Let's go to Step 2 and give you something to say.

Step 2. "Taking the wind out of the sails"

This step involves giving you something to say when asking for the negative behavior to stop.

Note: It is important to practice this step in private or (preferably) with a friend before using it.

You deserve to express your thoughts and feelings about this situation as it is clearly hurting you. It is also possible you may be able to help them see the negative results of their behavior.

It goes like this:

When 'X' happens (a typical negative interaction)
It makes me think and feel 'Y' (how you think and feel at the time)
I do not like having these thoughts and feelings
What I really want to think and feel is 'B' (how you wish to think and feel)

And what would help is for you to stop behaving like 'Z' (An optional extra, here is where you can describe their typical negative behavior - or 'energy' as you say, if that describes it better for you)

Your objective is not to start an argument (For example; "You are really negative all the time"), but to make some assertive statements that both express your own thoughts and feelings and in your case, ask for the negativity to stop.

It would go something like this:

"When we are talking about where to go out for lunch, it always seems to end up in a heated negative debate about what we don't like about each other.

It makes me think that you don't like/love me any more and I feel really frustrated that we can't be more positive about our lives.

I do not like having these thoughts and feelings.

What I really want to think about is how to make our life together better and I want to feel appreciated and loved.

(Optional) ... And what would really help is for you to stop making negative comments about any suggestions I make, instead you could acknowledge my desires are important to me."

Step 3. Creating a personal linked negative-to-positive state change

It is possible that even with Steps 1 & 2, you don't initially get massive changes and indeed, you may even trigger a negative reaction from your mate. But stay with it.

What we need to do now is to help you to feel empowered, even if they take no notice of what you say initially.

This involves making an automatic link in your mind to go from a typical 'disempowered state' of yours to a stronger one.

So I'd like you now to think of a time when you have felt strong (not with your mate necessarily) and 'on top of the world'. It may not have been recent, all that matters is that it was a strong feeling.

And in the event you have no memory of anything like this, feel free to make one up from 'your ideal world'.

OK, now intensify this feeling in your mind and really identify with it. Practice feeling s

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