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Hub You - Letting Go Of Perfection
Sometimes when we're familiar with a particular process, industry, route, whatever, we assume that everyone shares that same insight. The is especially true in the technology industry, where "tekkies" assume everyone else embraces the cyber-world as much as they do. I just saw a commercial for a cell phone company catering to seniors that lets users call customer service to add phone numbers, as opposed to just doing it themselves. That and the numbers are huge.
What Can I Learn Here?
We shift into Discovery, not with judgment, but with awareness -–by moving from "How can I be right about this?" to: "What can I learn here?"
When I'm angry because I just missed a three-foot putt, Discovery changes self-judgment into an opportunity for learning.
In the mi
One of the hardest things to do when you are just getting started with article marketing or with list building is being patient and maintaining focus as it all comes together. You see, it is very difficult to measure anything or develop conversion rates or profitability when you only have a few subscribers. You need at least 100 people to open an email before you can really decide if it is a good email or not. And if you only have 55 people on your list – you will never get 100 opens from that email. In fac
– Thomas Crum, The Magic of Conflict
I arrived at the conference center ready to present my workshop. Almost immediately I noticed the room was too small and it was not set up as requested. There were no flipcharts and there were tables, though I had specifically asked for open space. I caught myself and smiled. I drew the word D I S C O V E R Y in large letters on a piece of newsprint and put it at the front of the room as a reminder.
Discovery.
One of my favorite words, the concept of Discovery excites the brain, conjures up lost treasure, desert islands, new inventions, and old relics, something that was –- up to now –- unknown. Explorers discover new lands, scientists discover cures for diseases, and philosophers seek to discover the truth.
What about discovering each other? Learning what is new and important in each of our neighbors, friends, family, colleagues; what has been lost in the daily grind of work; truths, values, and hopes that are yet to be revealed? Discovery. A lovely word.
I first came to appreciate Discovery in The Magic of Conflict, where Thomas Crum describes it as a magical domain that "allows us to move beyond the fight, beyond success, to an open realm of possibility." When we’re in Discovery mode, we are spontaneous, curious, fascinated, and appreciative of life in all its diversity.
Young children live in Discovery and sometimes we do. Katharine Hepburn lived a life of stardom but never lost her childlike fascination with people and life. Thomas Edison’s famous quotation after many attempts at inventing the light bulb shows a person in Discovery mode: "I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won't work!"
Perfection.
What’s the opposite of Discovery? Perfection –- a place with which we're all too familiar. In Perfection, things have to be done right, we have to look good, get good grades, and win the games we play. Our standards are high, and failure is to be avoided at all costs. In daily conflicts, sometimes at the expense of our dearest relationships, we have to prevail. When we feel attacked we fight back, sometimes with our own hurtful words, or with behavior calculated to control, manipulate and diminish.
Shifting Gears.
According to Tom Crum, when we shift into Discovery, we treat mistakes as outcomes and conflicts as opportunities to learn and understand more of the world and our partners. We stop being afraid to fail because there is no failure, only increased awareness and experience. We enter a world of wonder, spontaneity, and fun.
What Can I Learn Here?
We shift into Discovery, not with judgment, but with awareness -–by moving from "How can I be right about this?" to: "What can I learn here?"
When I'm angry because I just missed a three-foot putt, Discovery changes self-judgment into an opportunity for learning.
In the mid
There are many advantages of selling your property using lease options – or so it is claimed. Basically, they say, you get all the advantages of both selling it and renting it out, without the disadvantages of either. Specifically, you get a large sum of money up-front AND a monthly income. You have none of the hassles of being a landlord and having to deal with the day-to-day problems of tenants. And you come in for a healthy profit when your buyer gets a new loan on the property and buys you out.Ho
What about discovering each other? Learning what is new and important in each of our neighbors, friends, family, colleagues; what has been lost in the daily grind of work; truths, values, and hopes that are yet to be revealed? Discovery. A lovely word.
I first came to appreciate Discovery in The Magic of Conflict, where Thomas Crum describes it as a magical domain that "allows us to move beyond the fight, beyond success, to an open realm of possibility." When we’re in Discovery mode, we are spontaneous, curious, fascinated, and appreciative of life in all its diversity.
Young children live in Discovery and sometimes we do. Katharine Hepburn lived a life of stardom but never lost her childlike fascination with people and life. Thomas Edison’s famous quotation after many attempts at inventing the light bulb shows a person in Discovery mode: "I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won't work!"
Perfection.
What’s the opposite of Discovery? Perfection –- a place with which we're all too familiar. In Perfection, things have to be done right, we have to look good, get good grades, and win the games we play. Our standards are high, and failure is to be avoided at all costs. In daily conflicts, sometimes at the expense of our dearest relationships, we have to prevail. When we feel attacked we fight back, sometimes with our own hurtful words, or with behavior calculated to control, manipulate and diminish.
Shifting Gears.
According to Tom Crum, when we shift into Discovery, we treat mistakes as outcomes and conflicts as opportunities to learn and understand more of the world and our partners. We stop being afraid to fail because there is no failure, only increased awareness and experience. We enter a world of wonder, spontaneity, and fun.
What Can I Learn Here?
We shift into Discovery, not with judgment, but with awareness -–by moving from "How can I be right about this?" to: "What can I learn here?"
When I'm angry because I just missed a three-foot putt, Discovery changes self-judgment into an opportunity for learning.
In the mi
You're starting a business, you have your concept, but where do you go from here? How do you go about expanding your design and unfolding your plan? And most importantly, how do you ensure you don't overlook any of the vital details? With so many questions and concerns in mind, it can seem hard to focus on the end result: the success of your business. But rest assured there are a number of resources designed specifically for those who are looking to start up a small business; because even if coming up with the
Young children live in Discovery and sometimes we do. Katharine Hepburn lived a life of stardom but never lost her childlike fascination with people and life. Thomas Edison’s famous quotation after many attempts at inventing the light bulb shows a person in Discovery mode: "I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won't work!"
Perfection.
What’s the opposite of Discovery? Perfection –- a place with which we're all too familiar. In Perfection, things have to be done right, we have to look good, get good grades, and win the games we play. Our standards are high, and failure is to be avoided at all costs. In daily conflicts, sometimes at the expense of our dearest relationships, we have to prevail. When we feel attacked we fight back, sometimes with our own hurtful words, or with behavior calculated to control, manipulate and diminish.
Shifting Gears.
According to Tom Crum, when we shift into Discovery, we treat mistakes as outcomes and conflicts as opportunities to learn and understand more of the world and our partners. We stop being afraid to fail because there is no failure, only increased awareness and experience. We enter a world of wonder, spontaneity, and fun.
What Can I Learn Here?
We shift into Discovery, not with judgment, but with awareness -–by moving from "How can I be right about this?" to: "What can I learn here?"
When I'm angry because I just missed a three-foot putt, Discovery changes self-judgment into an opportunity for learning.
In the mi
Awesome.... a proud moment for Bostonians everywhere??? 7-11-06, as a 1 ton concrete wall tile, being held up by 5 pieces of metal and epoxy fell and crushed a car and the woman in it. It turns out that maybe the government policy of awarding contracts to the lowest bidder, isn't necessarily the greatest policy. I heard a radio program equating the work on the big dig to be of lower quality than large construction projects in third world countries thanks to corruption and severe corner cutting (and only at th
Perfection.
What’s the opposite of Discovery? Perfection –- a place with which we're all too familiar. In Perfection, things have to be done right, we have to look good, get good grades, and win the games we play. Our standards are high, and failure is to be avoided at all costs. In daily conflicts, sometimes at the expense of our dearest relationships, we have to prevail. When we feel attacked we fight back, sometimes with our own hurtful words, or with behavior calculated to control, manipulate and diminish.
Shifting Gears.
According to Tom Crum, when we shift into Discovery, we treat mistakes as outcomes and conflicts as opportunities to learn and understand more of the world and our partners. We stop being afraid to fail because there is no failure, only increased awareness and experience. We enter a world of wonder, spontaneity, and fun.
What Can I Learn Here?
We shift into Discovery, not with judgment, but with awareness -–by moving from "How can I be right about this?" to: "What can I learn here?"
When I'm angry because I just missed a three-foot putt, Discovery changes self-judgment into an opportunity for learning.
In the mi
Today, student loans allow many who would otherwise be unable to afford the costs of higher learning the ability to obtain a college education. College loans are ideal in that they do not require the student to begin repayment until after graduation, which means there is more time to focus on studying and less time worrying about paying for an education. The best way to learn about student loans is to speak with the admissions office at your college of choice and/or request an application.After years o
What Can I Learn Here?
We shift into Discovery, not with judgment, but with awareness -–by moving from "How can I be right about this?" to: "What can I learn here?"
When I'm angry because I just missed a three-foot putt, Discovery changes self-judgment into an opportunity for learning.
In the middle of a tough meeting with your department manager, try asking yourself -- "What can I learn here?" What is it about this issue that's important to each of us?
Upon arriving home, you find your life partner upset.Your first reaction is that it's something you did. But wait! "What can I learn here?" jumps into your thoughts, and you ask: "Honey, you seem upset. Anything I can help with?" And you hear: "I'm just worried that I won’t finish this new project they gave me at work in time."
Or your teenager is exhibiting new habits that have you worried. It's worth checking out what the worldview is from her perspective before reaching a judgment.
We’ve all experienced moments of Discovery when we break through to a new understanding. It’s a powerful place that we like and want to revisit. The challenge is to choose to go there on purpose, especially in difficult situations. Katharine Hepburn has been quoted as saying, "Wouldn’t it be great if people could get to live suddenly as often as they die suddenly?" Shifting from Perfection to Discovery is the way. Try it. Discover for yourself.
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