act with Tamar; or else he masturbated. He refused to get Tamar pregnant. For the Rabbis, sex was always seen as a way of making babies only, sex as “fun” was frowned upon. The first commandment in the Torah is “p’ru u’r’vu, be fruitful and multiply” and so the Rabbis wanted to be certain that sex was only for the purpose of performing that mitzvah, and not for any other reason. In the It is my considered opinion that we should accept and strongly advocate private masturbation as the method of choice for the relief of all pre-marital sexual urges. I say this after examining both the classical sources, which are universally negative when discussing this topic; and the reality of our times, which creates an impossible no-win situation for our teen-agers.

The Torah tells the following story of Er and Onan, the sons of Judah, one of Joseph’ s older brothers in Genesis 37:2-9:

“Judah took the daughter of a Canaanite man to be his wife. She became pregnant and gave birth to a son, named Er. She became pregnant again and gave birth to another son, named Onan. The she became pregnant a third time and gave birth to a third son, named Sheyla. Now Judah took a wife for his first-born son Er, her name was Tamar. But Er did evil in the sight of God, and he died. Judah then said to Onan, his next-born, ‘have sex with your brother’s wife to preserve your brother’s seed.’ But Onan knew that the seed would not be his. So it was, when he came in to his brother’s wife, he let his seed go to ruin on the ground, so as not to provide seed for his brother. What he did was evil in the eyes of God, and he, too, died.”

According to the Torah, a man was required to marry his deceased brother’s childless widow in order to maintain his brother’s “name” and family line. Onan refused to do this for his dead brother Er. The Rabbis say: Onan engaged either in “coitus interruptus,” that is he started but did not finish the sex act with Tamar; or else he masturbated. He refused to get Tamar pregnant. For the Rabbis, sex was always seen as a way of making babies only, sex as “fun” was frowned upon. The first commandment in the Torah is “p’ru u’r’vu, be fruitful and multiply” and so the Rabbis wanted to be certain that sex was only for the purpose of performing that mitzvah, and not for any other reason. In the R

tells the following story of Er and Onan, the sons of Judah, one of Joseph’ s older brothers in Genesis 37:2-9:

“Judah took the daughter of a Canaanite man to be his wife. She became pregnant and gave birth to a son, named Er. She became pregnant again and gave birth to another son, named Onan. The she became pregnant a third time and gave birth to a third son, named Sheyla. Now Judah took a wife for his first-born son Er, her name was Tamar. But Er did evil in the sight of God, and he died. Judah then said to Onan, his next-born, ‘have sex with your brother’s wife to preserve your brother’s seed.’ But Onan knew that the seed would not be his. So it was, when he came in to his brother’s wife, he let his seed go to ruin on the ground, so as not to provide seed for his brother. What he did was evil in the eyes of God, and he, too, died.”

According to the Torah, a man was required to marry his deceased brother’s childless widow in order to maintain his brother’s “name” and family line. Onan refused to do this for his dead brother Er. The Rabbis say: Onan engaged either in “coitus interruptus,” that is he started but did not finish the sex act with Tamar; or else he masturbated. He refused to get Tamar pregnant. For the Rabbis, sex was always seen as a way of making babies only, sex as “fun” was frowned upon. The first commandment in the Torah is “p’ru u’r’vu, be fruitful and multiply” and so the Rabbis wanted to be certain that sex was only for the purpose of performing that mitzvah, and not for any other reason. In the

Judah took a wife for his first-born son Er, her name was Tamar. But Er did evil in the sight of God, and he died. Judah then said to Onan, his next-born, ‘have sex with your brother’s wife to preserve your brother’s seed.’ But Onan knew that the seed would not be his. So it was, when he came in to his brother’s wife, he let his seed go to ruin on the ground, so as not to provide seed for his brother. What he did was evil in the eyes of God, and he, too, died.”

According to the Torah, a man was required to marry his deceased brother’s childless widow in order to maintain his brother’s “name” and family line. Onan refused to do this for his dead brother Er. The Rabbis say: Onan engaged either in “coitus interruptus,” that is he started but did not finish the sex act with Tamar; or else he masturbated. He refused to get Tamar pregnant. For the Rabbis, sex was always seen as a way of making babies only, sex as “fun” was frowned upon. The first commandment in the Torah is “p’ru u’r’vu, be fruitful and multiply” and so the Rabbis wanted to be certain that sex was only for the purpose of performing that mitzvah, and not for any other reason. In the

or his brother. What he did was evil in the eyes of God, and he, too, died.”

According to the Torah, a man was required to marry his deceased brother’s childless widow in order to maintain his brother’s “name” and family line. Onan refused to do this for his dead brother Er. The Rabbis say: Onan engaged either in “coitus interruptus,” that is he started but did not finish the sex act with Tamar; or else he masturbated. He refused to get Tamar pregnant. For the Rabbis, sex was always seen as a way of making babies only, sex as “fun” was frowned upon. The first commandment in the Torah is “p’ru u’r’vu, be fruitful and multiply” and so the Rabbis wanted to be certain that sex was only for the purpose of performing that mitzvah, and not for any other reason. In the

act with Tamar; or else he masturbated. He refused to get Tamar pregnant. For the Rabbis, sex was always seen as a way of making babies only, sex as “fun” was frowned upon. The first commandment in the Torah is “p’ru u’r’vu, be fruitful and multiply” and so the Rabbis wanted to be certain that sex was only for the purpose of performing that mitzvah, and not for any other reason. In the Rabbis’ defense it is absolutely true that since a man’s sperm carries potential life, to waste that sperm is to waste potential life. The Rabbis were very clear about their desire to create and preserve life whenever possible. For them, masturbation was considered to be a waste of life-producing sperm and therefore a sin against God, and so the Rabbis prohibited it. For them, the story of Er and Onan is about sex and the responsibilities of a man to his dead brother.

But there are those, myself included, who understand the story of Er and Onan as being not about sex, but rather about property rights. I understand why Onan did what he did; he actually valued the connection between love and sex. He knew very well that even if Tamar would become pregnant by his sperm, the child would be seen as his brother Er’s, not as his. And this was unacceptable to him. Onan was not interested in producing a child that he personally would not get to raise as his own. To have a physical relationship with his sister-in-law was unacceptable to him, he was not a “one-night-stand” kind of guy. He insisted on sex with love attached, not all by itself.

Now let’s talk about today. Everywhere we look-TV, newspapers, magazines, Internet and movies-we are bombarded with images of sex: teen magazines filled from cover to cover with pictures of handsome hunks and sleazy babes; stores at the malls showing and selling tight Speedos and short skirts and blouses which cover very little cleavage; commercials for food, drink, and cigarettes which promis