ate anyway. In other words, play impossible to get, pretend that you do not like men and then they will come after you in droves..

Now, if I didn’t know that a lot of this advice comes from either Prude Goodie-Two-Shoes who has such a low-self esteem that she re-arranges her whole life around a man and acts like his helpless appendage or from Cruella de Vil who has suffered many disappointments that she w

I have received many emails that when squeezed down to the juice are all asking the same thing - how do we get men to call us after what we thought was a great date and to answer the phone when we call the nth time asking him why we haven't heard from him in a long time? How, how do we get men to pursue us?

The truth is, I have been trying to avoid writing about this subject mainly because there are many confusing “RULES” on what women can do to become more successful with the male gender - and both extremes have large followings.

On one hand we are told that men have a fragile ego that needs stroking until your paws go sore. We are told pouting your sweet lips puerile-like and aaahing and oohing his every move will increase his feelings for you. Never point out his mistakes or try to out smart him. Verbal attacks or contradicting him hurts his feelings, so veil sharp criticism into tender kitty’s purrrrs. Flirting with other men will make him jealous, and he might even walk out. In short, smile often, lie down and pretend to be dead and - oooohhh - remember to purr-rrrr every time he asks you if are still alive!.

On the other hand we are told men pine after bitches poised as vixens who maintain their power, independence and autonomy by making men slave for their attention. And to be the bitch men queue to get her telephone number you must act aloof when he approaches you. Brush him off – persistently. Don’t show him how you feel - act like other things are more important than him. And when he calls you to postpone a date because he has some urgent business matter to attend to, tell him you already have another date anyway. In other words, play impossible to get, pretend that you do not like men and then they will come after you in droves..

Now, if I didn’t know that a lot of this advice comes from either Prude Goodie-Two-Shoes who has such a low-self esteem that she re-arranges her whole life around a man and acts like his helpless appendage or from Cruella de Vil who has suffered many disappointments that she wa

confusing “RULES” on what women can do to become more successful with the male gender - and both extremes have large followings.

On one hand we are told that men have a fragile ego that needs stroking until your paws go sore. We are told pouting your sweet lips puerile-like and aaahing and oohing his every move will increase his feelings for you. Never point out his mistakes or try to out smart him. Verbal attacks or contradicting him hurts his feelings, so veil sharp criticism into tender kitty’s purrrrs. Flirting with other men will make him jealous, and he might even walk out. In short, smile often, lie down and pretend to be dead and - oooohhh - remember to purr-rrrr every time he asks you if are still alive!.

On the other hand we are told men pine after bitches poised as vixens who maintain their power, independence and autonomy by making men slave for their attention. And to be the bitch men queue to get her telephone number you must act aloof when he approaches you. Brush him off – persistently. Don’t show him how you feel - act like other things are more important than him. And when he calls you to postpone a date because he has some urgent business matter to attend to, tell him you already have another date anyway. In other words, play impossible to get, pretend that you do not like men and then they will come after you in droves..

Now, if I didn’t know that a lot of this advice comes from either Prude Goodie-Two-Shoes who has such a low-self esteem that she re-arranges her whole life around a man and acts like his helpless appendage or from Cruella de Vil who has suffered many disappointments that she w

attacks or contradicting him hurts his feelings, so veil sharp criticism into tender kitty’s purrrrs. Flirting with other men will make him jealous, and he might even walk out. In short, smile often, lie down and pretend to be dead and - oooohhh - remember to purr-rrrr every time he asks you if are still alive!.

On the other hand we are told men pine after bitches poised as vixens who maintain their power, independence and autonomy by making men slave for their attention. And to be the bitch men queue to get her telephone number you must act aloof when he approaches you. Brush him off – persistently. Don’t show him how you feel - act like other things are more important than him. And when he calls you to postpone a date because he has some urgent business matter to attend to, tell him you already have another date anyway. In other words, play impossible to get, pretend that you do not like men and then they will come after you in droves..

Now, if I didn’t know that a lot of this advice comes from either Prude Goodie-Two-Shoes who has such a low-self esteem that she re-arranges her whole life around a man and acts like his helpless appendage or from Cruella de Vil who has suffered many disappointments that she w

, independence and autonomy by making men slave for their attention. And to be the bitch men queue to get her telephone number you must act aloof when he approaches you. Brush him off – persistently. Don’t show him how you feel - act like other things are more important than him. And when he calls you to postpone a date because he has some urgent business matter to attend to, tell him you already have another date anyway. In other words, play impossible to get, pretend that you do not like men and then they will come after you in droves..

Now, if I didn’t know that a lot of this advice comes from either Prude Goodie-Two-Shoes who has such a low-self esteem that she re-arranges her whole life around a man and acts like his helpless appendage or from Cruella de Vil who has suffered many disappointments that she w

ate anyway. In other words, play impossible to get, pretend that you do not like men and then they will come after you in droves..

Now, if I didn’t know that a lot of this advice comes from either Prude Goodie-Two-Shoes who has such a low-self esteem that she re-arranges her whole life around a man and acts like his helpless appendage or from Cruella de Vil who has suffered many disappointments that she wants to get back at the male race for all her misfortunes, I would have thrown up my hands and found me another career, because if women really followed either approach, it’d lead to misery for everybody concerned. We’d only have self-indulged mama’s boys or those nagging losers after us. Worst of all, we’d never find true love pretending to be who we are not. But again some women would rather take anything in pants than be all by themselves.

I have women come to me time and again, desperate and confused as to why the guys they really like don’t seem to pay them any attention and the ones they can’t stand just don’t want to go away. They’ve tried kitty purring and they’ve tried playing “impossible to get” and the only thing still chasing them is their own shadow. What many women don't know and men don't tell us is that men love the illusion of being the hunters and are thrilled by the thought of chasing a real (or imagined) foxy woman.

So to get the men to pursue you, you must have some sort of spin to your game plan. What that means is that even if you are a tender-hearted deer or can ram and butt like a buffalo but can put a spin to the chase, you are most likely be to perceived as game. And this foxy spin is universal in its appeal. It gives the sense of novelty or “newness” a code that seems to be pre-programmed in the male gene. A spin is different from “tricks” or deceitful acts. A spin is a playful act with a bit of mystery in it. It is a build up of intrigue; in which with every lingering look, every expression, every body move you make him wonder what makes you tick and what's going on in your "sexy" head.