You must take a different approach – let go of the wanting to have it your way, regardless of whether you think your way is correct, it does not matter YOUR way at the moment does not work and never will, because it comes from wanting to be in control of what is happening. She is behaving badly, she should b

As an Ayurvedic healer and creation psychotherapist I work with people who want help to create something new and different in their lives, my methods are direct and guarantee shifts. Most people come to me because they have tried other ‘therapists’ and ‘got no where’

I have been working with John who has continual arguments with his wife that has become a regular occurrence. He is depressed, sick and tired that nothing changes, they just blow up have another major row, and nothing moves on. They argue about the same things again and again nothing he says makes any difference, she still does what ever she still does.

‘I sometimes feel like I want to kill her and when I look back at what happened it is way out of proportion to how I feel now when I have calmed down’ He said to me ‘we do not seem to grow from any of these episodes’

After talking with John over the phone I followed up via email and I have copied it into this article, exactly how I sent it to John. Read it through and see if it resonates with your own relationship situation and take steps to change YOUR behaviour and stop trying to change your partners.

Dear John it was good to talk with you today – I have put some notes together for you as promised as reminders – I hope it helps you to get focussed about your responsibility in this relationship.

• To continue to do the same thing again and again and see no changes – is madness – change what you’re doing

• Frustration and anger come from not getting what you want – regardless of what it is you want – acceptance is MUCH better.

• Accept that you will NEVER change your wife or anyone else from a place of anger and frustration, you will however change others from a place of acceptance

You must take a different approach – let go of the wanting to have it your way, regardless of whether you think your way is correct, it does not matter YOUR way at the moment does not work and never will, because it comes from wanting to be in control of what is happening. She is behaving badly, she should be

‘I sometimes feel like I want to kill her and when I look back at what happened it is way out of proportion to how I feel now when I have calmed down’ He said to me ‘we do not seem to grow from any of these episodes’

After talking with John over the phone I followed up via email and I have copied it into this article, exactly how I sent it to John. Read it through and see if it resonates with your own relationship situation and take steps to change YOUR behaviour and stop trying to change your partners.

Dear John it was good to talk with you today – I have put some notes together for you as promised as reminders – I hope it helps you to get focussed about your responsibility in this relationship.

• To continue to do the same thing again and again and see no changes – is madness – change what you’re doing

• Frustration and anger come from not getting what you want – regardless of what it is you want – acceptance is MUCH better.

• Accept that you will NEVER change your wife or anyone else from a place of anger and frustration, you will however change others from a place of acceptance

You must take a different approach – let go of the wanting to have it your way, regardless of whether you think your way is correct, it does not matter YOUR way at the moment does not work and never will, because it comes from wanting to be in control of what is happening. She is behaving badly, she should b

After talking with John over the phone I followed up via email and I have copied it into this article, exactly how I sent it to John. Read it through and see if it resonates with your own relationship situation and take steps to change YOUR behaviour and stop trying to change your partners.

Dear John it was good to talk with you today – I have put some notes together for you as promised as reminders – I hope it helps you to get focussed about your responsibility in this relationship.

• To continue to do the same thing again and again and see no changes – is madness – change what you’re doing

• Frustration and anger come from not getting what you want – regardless of what it is you want – acceptance is MUCH better.

• Accept that you will NEVER change your wife or anyone else from a place of anger and frustration, you will however change others from a place of acceptance

You must take a different approach – let go of the wanting to have it your way, regardless of whether you think your way is correct, it does not matter YOUR way at the moment does not work and never will, because it comes from wanting to be in control of what is happening. She is behaving badly, she should b

• To continue to do the same thing again and again and see no changes – is madness – change what you’re doing

• Frustration and anger come from not getting what you want – regardless of what it is you want – acceptance is MUCH better.

• Accept that you will NEVER change your wife or anyone else from a place of anger and frustration, you will however change others from a place of acceptance

You must take a different approach – let go of the wanting to have it your way, regardless of whether you think your way is correct, it does not matter YOUR way at the moment does not work and never will, because it comes from wanting to be in control of what is happening. She is behaving badly, she should b

You must take a different approach – let go of the wanting to have it your way, regardless of whether you think your way is correct, it does not matter YOUR way at the moment does not work and never will, because it comes from wanting to be in control of what is happening. She is behaving badly, she should be different, this is what I want – it’s not happening = anger and frustration.

Your wife says ‘I want that’ – she does not get it – she cannot get what she wants = frustration and anger Everything we experience about anger and frustration can be boiled down to us not getting what WE want from someone else

• You can however get what you want from yourself – less frustration and anger – more peace and happiness by changing YOUR thinking.

‘Hey what about THEM’ why don’t THEY change – well that’s up to them if they are frustrated and angry and miserable then yes they will have to think about what is going on for them, so forget trying to get them to see and change and do what is ONLY possible and that is to shift YOU. So stop trying to make some one change there is really no point at all

This will be a difficult process because you will not be used to this – but to create a life that has meaning for you and one that is less frustrating you will need to keep a check and an eye on yourself. It can sound like too much hard work. And because it is a new way of thinking it might be hard in the beginning but in the long run it will be much better, you begin now with your self and things will get better and easier. And those around you will shift as well - guaranteed. You must how ever do this for YOU and not so that they will change – notice another ‘control’ issue.

So lets get down to the deeper stuff – what you are angry and frustrated about goes way back in time, your wife and who ever else around you may ‘trigger’ the emotion, but a lot of it will come from past crap – that has been bottled and stays around for years and years. You will