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Hub You - Fulfilling Relationships - 7 Commonsense Core Elements
It is most fascinating to study how entrepreneurs spot opportunity in the market place. “My name is Lance Winslow and I am a serial entrepreneur, I admit I am addicted and need help.” ...“Hello Lance.” Let me explain how I formed one of my companies which became a franchise system in itself and became a module under the umbrella company I had formed many years the prior. I at first saw it as another business to fit into our growing niche of cleaning businesses. It was to be called the Awning Wash Guys. This is an interesting case study in how businesses form and how companies seek, find and exploit opportunity in the market place. Here is the story:Many years back I got a call last from my franchisees in Denver, who had been doing very good after signing up all the John Elway Car Dealerships for car washing. My franchisee was a Car Wa
* Make it your practice to speak from integrity, from a place of such soundness and wholeness that trust will always be the end result.
* Vow to use communication to encourage, refresh and heal, never to inflict pain.
* One of the quickest and surest ways to a breakdown in communication is to make assumptions. The purpose of communication is to exchange information. Always ask, never assume.
* Make your questions open-ended. Questions requiring a yes or no answer will seldom grow an exchange. Open questions leave plenty of room for an interesting give and take.
* When asking a question, be genuinely interested in gaining information. If you’re not prepared to be really interested in the response, don’t ask the question.
* For communication to be truly valuable, healthy and nurturing to a relationship, it must occu
I’ve heard people say that there is nothing in God’s Word telling us we can live a long life, so that prompted this study. Although, this is not a comprehensive study, it shows God’s desire for man. The Word tells us let everything be established by 2 or 3 witnesses, and there is enough evidence provided here to satisfy that criteria. Obedience is always the key to inheriting the blessings of God. On the other hand, disobedience will cause the Word not to bear fruit in our life. You can see by these scriptures that we have to do what the Lord tells us to do through His Word in order to receive the blessing of long life. The same is also true for all of the blessings of God.After we put the Word of God first in our lives we have the privilege to receive the promises. We can give God the glory for it. Put God’s Word first in your
But for all this vast amount of material, do we really know any more about building and maintaining fulfilling relationships than we ever have? We’ve certainly studied the subject, but the same issues that divided hundreds of years ago continue to divide.
A great deal of commonsense is necessary to birth and nurture any healthy relationship. We often seek complex answers to weighty issues when true and lasting success is found in simplicity.
To begin, let’s look at seven necessary components to any healthy caring relationship. Perhaps you can assemble a more impressive, more complex list, but these comprise a core from which you can build, or begin rebuilding any relationship.
SELF-RESPECT. To treat oneself as worthy of attention, esteem, regard, and consideration is the first step. Just as charity begins at home, respect begins with oneself. You cannot give what you don’t have and you cannot respect another person without a healthy dose of self-respect. Without it, relationships are hopelessly lopsided and you will soon attempt to get from the relationship what must come from within. From self-respect comes the capacity to respect another and relationship is birthed.
MUTUAL RESPECT is the result. This critical element must flow freely through the relationship, from within yourself to the other individual and back to you again. It must continue unabated, nourishing the relationship in its life blood.
MUTUAL AFFECTION. A degree of fondness is necessary in any relationship that is going to endure past necessity. Many relationships based on self-interest, without honest affection, can exist briefly but only for a specific purpose.
However, those that endure beyond the reason for their beginnings will be those that develop a genuine and caring interaction, a fondness which grows from the other elements. The deeper the fondness, the more powerful the relationship.
Self interest, not to be confused with self-knowledge, is the enemy of all true affection. Mutual affection assumes a genuine concern for the other, and never with an “agenda.”
INTIMACY. Some would place intimacy with or even before affection, but the true personal and private familiarity that is intimacy grows from affection, and must be based on mutual respect. Today’s society mistakenly puts intimacy first, and is surprised when mutual respect and affection do not develop as a result. But true and lasting intimacy, beyond the physical, can only grow as a result of the first three elements.
COOPERATION. Operating in a common effort, in agreed unity of purpose, builds relationship strength as surely as any muscle building activity builds physical strength. We hear it from the time we are old enough to learn from Grover and big Bird, but many of us cast it aside when we outgrow the playground.
Cooperation implies accountability to something greater than the individuals, to the relationship itself. Focusing on this perspective will keep pride from sabotaging this necessary element.
MUTUAL TRUST will be the result. It is reliance based on the truthfulness, character, integrity, and the proven ability of the other individual, as experienced over time. Trust is always earned experientially and there’s no way around it. You cannot demand it and you cannot finagle it. You must make deposits to the account and only then can you withdraw the trust.
COMMITMENT TO THE RELATIONSHIP. Commitment is an agreement, a pledge, and it must be fully engaged to count. It’s an all or nothing undertaking. It has been said that 100% commitment is easy. It’s 99% commitment that is difficult.
Commitment is nothing more than a decision and, like most decisions, it’s only difficult if it’s avoided. Sitting on the fence has never been comfortable! Once the decision is made, the execution follows along easily.
COMMUNICATION. Without this one, none of the rest is worth the ink. Bathe your relationships in quality communication.
* Listen deeply and really hear what’s being said. Practice being truly and fully present in a conversation, not merely waiting for the next opening to interject your pithy comment. Drop your own agenda and listen from a place of selflessness.
* Make it your practice to speak from integrity, from a place of such soundness and wholeness that trust will always be the end result.
* Vow to use communication to encourage, refresh and heal, never to inflict pain.
* One of the quickest and surest ways to a breakdown in communication is to make assumptions. The purpose of communication is to exchange information. Always ask, never assume.
* Make your questions open-ended. Questions requiring a yes or no answer will seldom grow an exchange. Open questions leave plenty of room for an interesting give and take.
* When asking a question, be genuinely interested in gaining information. If you’re not prepared to be really interested in the response, don’t ask the question.
* For communication to be truly valuable, healthy and nurturing to a relationship, it must occur
More people are able to afford digital cameras because their prices are falling but the number of characteristics is rising so it is important to be able to compare digital camera features.The first step in being able to compare digital camera features is to decide what you want to get out of your camera. If you compare digital camera prices you will see that for shooting family snapshots you can get a good basic digital camera for under $400, while a professional model is over $2,000. When you compare digital camera features you need to know the extent of the use you are going to get out of it.It is essential when you compare digital camera options to understand the issues of image resolution, which is measured in megapixels. Basically, the more megapixels, the higher the resolutions of the final image but you definitely need t
SELF-RESPECT. To treat oneself as worthy of attention, esteem, regard, and consideration is the first step. Just as charity begins at home, respect begins with oneself. You cannot give what you don’t have and you cannot respect another person without a healthy dose of self-respect. Without it, relationships are hopelessly lopsided and you will soon attempt to get from the relationship what must come from within. From self-respect comes the capacity to respect another and relationship is birthed.
MUTUAL RESPECT is the result. This critical element must flow freely through the relationship, from within yourself to the other individual and back to you again. It must continue unabated, nourishing the relationship in its life blood.
MUTUAL AFFECTION. A degree of fondness is necessary in any relationship that is going to endure past necessity. Many relationships based on self-interest, without honest affection, can exist briefly but only for a specific purpose.
However, those that endure beyond the reason for their beginnings will be those that develop a genuine and caring interaction, a fondness which grows from the other elements. The deeper the fondness, the more powerful the relationship.
Self interest, not to be confused with self-knowledge, is the enemy of all true affection. Mutual affection assumes a genuine concern for the other, and never with an “agenda.”
INTIMACY. Some would place intimacy with or even before affection, but the true personal and private familiarity that is intimacy grows from affection, and must be based on mutual respect. Today’s society mistakenly puts intimacy first, and is surprised when mutual respect and affection do not develop as a result. But true and lasting intimacy, beyond the physical, can only grow as a result of the first three elements.
COOPERATION. Operating in a common effort, in agreed unity of purpose, builds relationship strength as surely as any muscle building activity builds physical strength. We hear it from the time we are old enough to learn from Grover and big Bird, but many of us cast it aside when we outgrow the playground.
Cooperation implies accountability to something greater than the individuals, to the relationship itself. Focusing on this perspective will keep pride from sabotaging this necessary element.
MUTUAL TRUST will be the result. It is reliance based on the truthfulness, character, integrity, and the proven ability of the other individual, as experienced over time. Trust is always earned experientially and there’s no way around it. You cannot demand it and you cannot finagle it. You must make deposits to the account and only then can you withdraw the trust.
COMMITMENT TO THE RELATIONSHIP. Commitment is an agreement, a pledge, and it must be fully engaged to count. It’s an all or nothing undertaking. It has been said that 100% commitment is easy. It’s 99% commitment that is difficult.
Commitment is nothing more than a decision and, like most decisions, it’s only difficult if it’s avoided. Sitting on the fence has never been comfortable! Once the decision is made, the execution follows along easily.
COMMUNICATION. Without this one, none of the rest is worth the ink. Bathe your relationships in quality communication.
* Listen deeply and really hear what’s being said. Practice being truly and fully present in a conversation, not merely waiting for the next opening to interject your pithy comment. Drop your own agenda and listen from a place of selflessness.
* Make it your practice to speak from integrity, from a place of such soundness and wholeness that trust will always be the end result.
* Vow to use communication to encourage, refresh and heal, never to inflict pain.
* One of the quickest and surest ways to a breakdown in communication is to make assumptions. The purpose of communication is to exchange information. Always ask, never assume.
* Make your questions open-ended. Questions requiring a yes or no answer will seldom grow an exchange. Open questions leave plenty of room for an interesting give and take.
* When asking a question, be genuinely interested in gaining information. If you’re not prepared to be really interested in the response, don’t ask the question.
* For communication to be truly valuable, healthy and nurturing to a relationship, it must occu
Disability benefit is a handy economic aid and helps the disabled to a great degree. But it can, at times, be a little difficult to get hands over these aids. For, mere your thinking that you are disabled is not enough, the government should also share the same views with you. And until and unless it does, the exchequer will not release a penny.The disability determination begins with the field offices of the Social Security Administration where one is supposed to file an application for disability benefit. One may approach the authorities on telephone, by mail or may simply fill and submit the form online.The application form requires one to provide information about one's disability, treatment and other associated information. The field office then finds out if one fulfills the non-medical requirements for the benefits. For i
Self interest, not to be confused with self-knowledge, is the enemy of all true affection. Mutual affection assumes a genuine concern for the other, and never with an “agenda.”
INTIMACY. Some would place intimacy with or even before affection, but the true personal and private familiarity that is intimacy grows from affection, and must be based on mutual respect. Today’s society mistakenly puts intimacy first, and is surprised when mutual respect and affection do not develop as a result. But true and lasting intimacy, beyond the physical, can only grow as a result of the first three elements.
COOPERATION. Operating in a common effort, in agreed unity of purpose, builds relationship strength as surely as any muscle building activity builds physical strength. We hear it from the time we are old enough to learn from Grover and big Bird, but many of us cast it aside when we outgrow the playground.
Cooperation implies accountability to something greater than the individuals, to the relationship itself. Focusing on this perspective will keep pride from sabotaging this necessary element.
MUTUAL TRUST will be the result. It is reliance based on the truthfulness, character, integrity, and the proven ability of the other individual, as experienced over time. Trust is always earned experientially and there’s no way around it. You cannot demand it and you cannot finagle it. You must make deposits to the account and only then can you withdraw the trust.
COMMITMENT TO THE RELATIONSHIP. Commitment is an agreement, a pledge, and it must be fully engaged to count. It’s an all or nothing undertaking. It has been said that 100% commitment is easy. It’s 99% commitment that is difficult.
Commitment is nothing more than a decision and, like most decisions, it’s only difficult if it’s avoided. Sitting on the fence has never been comfortable! Once the decision is made, the execution follows along easily.
COMMUNICATION. Without this one, none of the rest is worth the ink. Bathe your relationships in quality communication.
* Listen deeply and really hear what’s being said. Practice being truly and fully present in a conversation, not merely waiting for the next opening to interject your pithy comment. Drop your own agenda and listen from a place of selflessness.
* Make it your practice to speak from integrity, from a place of such soundness and wholeness that trust will always be the end result.
* Vow to use communication to encourage, refresh and heal, never to inflict pain.
* One of the quickest and surest ways to a breakdown in communication is to make assumptions. The purpose of communication is to exchange information. Always ask, never assume.
* Make your questions open-ended. Questions requiring a yes or no answer will seldom grow an exchange. Open questions leave plenty of room for an interesting give and take.
* When asking a question, be genuinely interested in gaining information. If you’re not prepared to be really interested in the response, don’t ask the question.
* For communication to be truly valuable, healthy and nurturing to a relationship, it must occu
What makes one logo better than another?Simplicity.A good logo works in the simplest form. It is a memorable representation of your brand and inspires confidence in your customers. It should be fresh and original -- without visual cliches or amateur effects. A logo is well-designed when it looks as good on a business card as it does on a web page or a billboard. To be functional, a good logo must reduce well to simple black & white or grayscale for use on faxes or in newspaper ads. The best logos are elegantly simple.Why do you need a logo?In a way, a logo is a visual shortcut to who you are. Your logo will establish your corporate identity and credibility. It builds loyalty among your clients and employees. You invest in your brand image every time your logo is displayed on a Web page, on a sign, or in an advert
MUTUAL TRUST will be the result. It is reliance based on the truthfulness, character, integrity, and the proven ability of the other individual, as experienced over time. Trust is always earned experientially and there’s no way around it. You cannot demand it and you cannot finagle it. You must make deposits to the account and only then can you withdraw the trust.
COMMITMENT TO THE RELATIONSHIP. Commitment is an agreement, a pledge, and it must be fully engaged to count. It’s an all or nothing undertaking. It has been said that 100% commitment is easy. It’s 99% commitment that is difficult.
Commitment is nothing more than a decision and, like most decisions, it’s only difficult if it’s avoided. Sitting on the fence has never been comfortable! Once the decision is made, the execution follows along easily.
COMMUNICATION. Without this one, none of the rest is worth the ink. Bathe your relationships in quality communication.
* Listen deeply and really hear what’s being said. Practice being truly and fully present in a conversation, not merely waiting for the next opening to interject your pithy comment. Drop your own agenda and listen from a place of selflessness.
* Make it your practice to speak from integrity, from a place of such soundness and wholeness that trust will always be the end result.
* Vow to use communication to encourage, refresh and heal, never to inflict pain.
* One of the quickest and surest ways to a breakdown in communication is to make assumptions. The purpose of communication is to exchange information. Always ask, never assume.
* Make your questions open-ended. Questions requiring a yes or no answer will seldom grow an exchange. Open questions leave plenty of room for an interesting give and take.
* When asking a question, be genuinely interested in gaining information. If you’re not prepared to be really interested in the response, don’t ask the question.
* For communication to be truly valuable, healthy and nurturing to a relationship, it must occu
How do window cleaning franchise businesses start? It is a fascinating case study indeed, as most all window cleaning businesses start from such humble beginnings; a bucket of water, a sharp entrepreneur and a quality squeegee. I never thought in a million years I would ever enter the Window Washing Industry. I hate washing windows, probably because I suck at it. Anyway our company The Car Wash Guys Franchise Systems; www.carwashguys.com was featured in a PBS Special on TV on a one-hour program.www.pbs.org/livelyhood/honeywebought/bossresources.htmlit was viewed by 20 million American people. That night I got a call from a Chiropractor in Tucson. We talked from 8 pm until 5 am and we discussed all kinds of stuff. Two years went bye, then one day I was sitting a Starbucks in Palm Desert CA and a guy comes by washing windows
* Make it your practice to speak from integrity, from a place of such soundness and wholeness that trust will always be the end result.
* Vow to use communication to encourage, refresh and heal, never to inflict pain.
* One of the quickest and surest ways to a breakdown in communication is to make assumptions. The purpose of communication is to exchange information. Always ask, never assume.
* Make your questions open-ended. Questions requiring a yes or no answer will seldom grow an exchange. Open questions leave plenty of room for an interesting give and take.
* When asking a question, be genuinely interested in gaining information. If you’re not prepared to be really interested in the response, don’t ask the question.
* For communication to be truly valuable, healthy and nurturing to a relationship, it must occur in an atmosphere of safety. What is said during a time of warmth and affection must never be used as a weapon during a period of distress or conflict.
* Successful relationship-building communication must be based soundly in honesty. This is not by any means a license to inflict pain. It is instead a refusal to be deceptive, in word or action, toward another individual or toward oneself.
Examine these important elements of successful relationships with an open mind and heart and be prepared to honestly assess your own relationships. If you see a pattern and any are faltering in these areas, take ownership of your role in the breakdown and begin the rebuilding process immediately.
Lopsidedness in any of these areas leads to dependency or co-dependency in relationships. Guard against always being on the giving or always on the receiving end in any of these areas. Balance is the key to each of these principles.
Start to build and rebuild your own relationships with these seven core elements and soon you’ll be adding to them, consistency, courage, wisdom, humor, generosity, etc. The list can be truly endless and as unique as your many fulfilling relationships.
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