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Hub You - Silence—The Ultimate Control and Power Over Another
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• fear of being ‘at fault’
• humiliation/shame/guilt for one’s state of affairs
• realizing time is passing with no reconciliation for peace of mind and happiness
• sense of life passing by
• belief ‘if only I could change everything about myself everything would be better’
• a strong desire to escape—including running away or suicide
• belief that what one does best may be what one does worst—I am damned if I do and damned if I don’t
• propensity to live in the future—“Everything will be OK if/when/after….”
• distrusting relationships in general and specifically with the abuser’s gender
Verbal abusers are generally in total denial that they are abusive. Therefore, the great tragedy in a verbally abusive relationship is that the other’s efforts to bring reconciliation, mutual understanding and intimacy are rejected because the abuser experiences it as adversarial. This is so because of his/her fr
A true national defense system is about readiness and the ability to adapt and quickly respond with adequate force to alleviate the disruption to the system or harm to its people. Any nation which fails to have such a system in place is inviting disruptors to cause harm to that nation. A strong defense is the first and foremost responsibility of government.This is why I always say that a high state of readiness coupled with Fluidity of Motion is what a Nations Defense is all about. The famous military historian and philosopher Carl von Clausewitz believed that if a nations defense was tough that it would prevent an enemy from attacking and if an ene
In a conflict each person wants something different. However, in a conflict the parties discuss their wants, needs and seek a mutually win/win solution. While seeking the solution neither party forces, dominates or controls the other.
One might think verbal abuse is primarily in low-income families with poor education. However, studies reveal verbal abuse is within all educational and socioeconomic backgrounds. Levels of education range from high school graduates to Ph.D., M.D., JD, etc. Occupations vary and include artists, professors, lawyers, politicians, medical doctors, psychiatrists, homemakers, CEO’s, and entrepreneurs.
Silence a.k.a. Withholding is the most damaging and hurtful form of verbal abuse. One might think that in order for the behavior to be considered verbal abusive words need to be spoken. This misunderstanding of verbal abuse adds to the recipient’s confusion within the relationship. The recipient of silence/withholding may believe the relationship is functional because the abuser may communicate functional information, but refuses—through silence/ withholding (non-responsive)—to communicate on an intimate level.
There needs to be more than an exchange of information. Healthy relationships require intimacy. Intimacy requires empathy. To hear and be heard and to understand another’s feelings and experiences is empathetic comprehension. Intimacy in a relationship can not be achieved if one party is unwilling to share him/herself and is unwilling to be supportive of the other in an empathetic way. Silence/withholding enables the abuser to control and have Power Over while keeping his/her ideal image intact. The abuser’s ego construct is extremely fragile and without a stance of control and Power Over, the abuser’s feelings of powerlessness would be felt as an assault to their well constructed mode of functioning in what they consider a hostile world.
This is not to say that two people may not always understand each other or may have difficulty expressing feelings, the intention to understand and/or express feelings is the foundation from which both parties function. One person alone can not create intimacy in a relationship.
Silence/withholding speaks louder than words and creates as much emotional damage as hostile words. Simply stated, silence/withholding is a choice to keep virtually all one’s thoughts, feelings, hopes and dreams to oneself and to remain silent and aloof toward another, to reveal as little as possible, and to maintain an attitude of cool indifference, control and Power Over.
The consequences of any form of verbal abuse may vary in intensity, depth and breadth. However the outcome of any form of verbal abuse impacts the receiver’s self-perception, emotional well-being and spiritual vitality. Verbal abuse takes the joy and vitality out of life through the distortions of reality, because the abuser’s response does not coincide with the sender’s communication.
The primary consequences of verbal abuse includes, but are not restricted to:
• distrusting one’s spontaneity
• doubting one’s perceptions
• reluctance to come to conclusions
• perpetual preparedness, on-guard state
• uncertainty about one’s impact on others
• believing ‘something is wrong with me’
• constant soul searching and reviewing incidents with the hope of determining what went wrong
• eroded self-confidence
• constant self-doubt/confused
• frustrated/enraged
• a heightened ‘critical voice’
• loss of happiness, but unable to identify the reason
• anxiety or fear of ‘being crazy’
• fear of being ‘at fault’
• humiliation/shame/guilt for one’s state of affairs
• realizing time is passing with no reconciliation for peace of mind and happiness
• sense of life passing by
• belief ‘if only I could change everything about myself everything would be better’
• a strong desire to escape—including running away or suicide
• belief that what one does best may be what one does worst—I am damned if I do and damned if I don’t
• propensity to live in the future—“Everything will be OK if/when/after….”
• distrusting relationships in general and specifically with the abuser’s gender
Verbal abusers are generally in total denial that they are abusive. Therefore, the great tragedy in a verbally abusive relationship is that the other’s efforts to bring reconciliation, mutual understanding and intimacy are rejected because the abuser experiences it as adversarial. This is so because of his/her fra
Usually the emphasis on making an effective speech is what you do in preparation before the presentation begins. But if you speak very much, what you do after the speech can help you become a more effective speaker. As soon as possible after the speech, write down impressions of how you felt the speech went. Answer at least two questions about the speech: What was the best part of the speech? What part of the speech can be improved the next time? Some of your best ideas will come to you as you are speaking. Wr
Silence a.k.a. Withholding is the most damaging and hurtful form of verbal abuse. One might think that in order for the behavior to be considered verbal abusive words need to be spoken. This misunderstanding of verbal abuse adds to the recipient’s confusion within the relationship. The recipient of silence/withholding may believe the relationship is functional because the abuser may communicate functional information, but refuses—through silence/ withholding (non-responsive)—to communicate on an intimate level.
There needs to be more than an exchange of information. Healthy relationships require intimacy. Intimacy requires empathy. To hear and be heard and to understand another’s feelings and experiences is empathetic comprehension. Intimacy in a relationship can not be achieved if one party is unwilling to share him/herself and is unwilling to be supportive of the other in an empathetic way. Silence/withholding enables the abuser to control and have Power Over while keeping his/her ideal image intact. The abuser’s ego construct is extremely fragile and without a stance of control and Power Over, the abuser’s feelings of powerlessness would be felt as an assault to their well constructed mode of functioning in what they consider a hostile world.
This is not to say that two people may not always understand each other or may have difficulty expressing feelings, the intention to understand and/or express feelings is the foundation from which both parties function. One person alone can not create intimacy in a relationship.
Silence/withholding speaks louder than words and creates as much emotional damage as hostile words. Simply stated, silence/withholding is a choice to keep virtually all one’s thoughts, feelings, hopes and dreams to oneself and to remain silent and aloof toward another, to reveal as little as possible, and to maintain an attitude of cool indifference, control and Power Over.
The consequences of any form of verbal abuse may vary in intensity, depth and breadth. However the outcome of any form of verbal abuse impacts the receiver’s self-perception, emotional well-being and spiritual vitality. Verbal abuse takes the joy and vitality out of life through the distortions of reality, because the abuser’s response does not coincide with the sender’s communication.
The primary consequences of verbal abuse includes, but are not restricted to:
• distrusting one’s spontaneity
• doubting one’s perceptions
• reluctance to come to conclusions
• perpetual preparedness, on-guard state
• uncertainty about one’s impact on others
• believing ‘something is wrong with me’
• constant soul searching and reviewing incidents with the hope of determining what went wrong
• eroded self-confidence
• constant self-doubt/confused
• frustrated/enraged
• a heightened ‘critical voice’
• loss of happiness, but unable to identify the reason
• anxiety or fear of ‘being crazy’
• fear of being ‘at fault’
• humiliation/shame/guilt for one’s state of affairs
• realizing time is passing with no reconciliation for peace of mind and happiness
• sense of life passing by
• belief ‘if only I could change everything about myself everything would be better’
• a strong desire to escape—including running away or suicide
• belief that what one does best may be what one does worst—I am damned if I do and damned if I don’t
• propensity to live in the future—“Everything will be OK if/when/after….”
• distrusting relationships in general and specifically with the abuser’s gender
Verbal abusers are generally in total denial that they are abusive. Therefore, the great tragedy in a verbally abusive relationship is that the other’s efforts to bring reconciliation, mutual understanding and intimacy are rejected because the abuser experiences it as adversarial. This is so because of his/her fr
Many people aren't aware that the total amount of outstanding credit card debt that a person carries can adversely affect the interest rate on other credit cards.Sounds like a Catch-22 situation, doesn't it? Higher debt + higher interest rate = higher monthly payments that are harder to pay.Here's how it happens.Credit card companies constantly monitor a cardholder's credit report and profile. The credit card companies have whole departments of credit analysts whose job is to look for a change in your credit status, limits, and usage. When the analysts detect that additional unsecured credit has been added - either in the form of perso
This is not to say that two people may not always understand each other or may have difficulty expressing feelings, the intention to understand and/or express feelings is the foundation from which both parties function. One person alone can not create intimacy in a relationship.
Silence/withholding speaks louder than words and creates as much emotional damage as hostile words. Simply stated, silence/withholding is a choice to keep virtually all one’s thoughts, feelings, hopes and dreams to oneself and to remain silent and aloof toward another, to reveal as little as possible, and to maintain an attitude of cool indifference, control and Power Over.
The consequences of any form of verbal abuse may vary in intensity, depth and breadth. However the outcome of any form of verbal abuse impacts the receiver’s self-perception, emotional well-being and spiritual vitality. Verbal abuse takes the joy and vitality out of life through the distortions of reality, because the abuser’s response does not coincide with the sender’s communication.
The primary consequences of verbal abuse includes, but are not restricted to:
• distrusting one’s spontaneity
• doubting one’s perceptions
• reluctance to come to conclusions
• perpetual preparedness, on-guard state
• uncertainty about one’s impact on others
• believing ‘something is wrong with me’
• constant soul searching and reviewing incidents with the hope of determining what went wrong
• eroded self-confidence
• constant self-doubt/confused
• frustrated/enraged
• a heightened ‘critical voice’
• loss of happiness, but unable to identify the reason
• anxiety or fear of ‘being crazy’
• fear of being ‘at fault’
• humiliation/shame/guilt for one’s state of affairs
• realizing time is passing with no reconciliation for peace of mind and happiness
• sense of life passing by
• belief ‘if only I could change everything about myself everything would be better’
• a strong desire to escape—including running away or suicide
• belief that what one does best may be what one does worst—I am damned if I do and damned if I don’t
• propensity to live in the future—“Everything will be OK if/when/after….”
• distrusting relationships in general and specifically with the abuser’s gender
Verbal abusers are generally in total denial that they are abusive. Therefore, the great tragedy in a verbally abusive relationship is that the other’s efforts to bring reconciliation, mutual understanding and intimacy are rejected because the abuser experiences it as adversarial. This is so because of his/her fr
When you were a child, your parents may have encouraged you to save some of your allowance in order to be able to purchase something that you wanted. They might have later on helped you to learn more about the value of money by expecting you to get a job to help pay for your first car or your college education. Hopefully they also taught you about the value of your credit and how important it is to protect it. While these are wonderful lessons to learn, they neglected what in the long run can prove to be the most important factor in investing – the time that your money is invested.As mentioned in an earlier article, there is a time value of money. T
The primary consequences of verbal abuse includes, but are not restricted to:
• distrusting one’s spontaneity
• doubting one’s perceptions
• reluctance to come to conclusions
• perpetual preparedness, on-guard state
• uncertainty about one’s impact on others
• believing ‘something is wrong with me’
• constant soul searching and reviewing incidents with the hope of determining what went wrong
• eroded self-confidence
• constant self-doubt/confused
• frustrated/enraged
• a heightened ‘critical voice’
• loss of happiness, but unable to identify the reason
• anxiety or fear of ‘being crazy’
• fear of being ‘at fault’
• humiliation/shame/guilt for one’s state of affairs
• realizing time is passing with no reconciliation for peace of mind and happiness
• sense of life passing by
• belief ‘if only I could change everything about myself everything would be better’
• a strong desire to escape—including running away or suicide
• belief that what one does best may be what one does worst—I am damned if I do and damned if I don’t
• propensity to live in the future—“Everything will be OK if/when/after….”
• distrusting relationships in general and specifically with the abuser’s gender
Verbal abusers are generally in total denial that they are abusive. Therefore, the great tragedy in a verbally abusive relationship is that the other’s efforts to bring reconciliation, mutual understanding and intimacy are rejected because the abuser experiences it as adversarial. This is so because of his/her fr
The day comes that you lose your job and, along with it, you lose your health insurance. Fortunately, interim health insurance is something that can keep you afloat until you find a new job. An interim health insurance policy will cover your health care needs from the time you lose your job until you are eligible for benefits from your new employer.Where should you begin to look for a short-term health insurance policy? Like many people today, your first stop will probably be one of the internet search engines and these will produced a laundry list of directories. These directories each provided a list of companies that offer interim health insuran
• fear of being ‘at fault’
• humiliation/shame/guilt for one’s state of affairs
• realizing time is passing with no reconciliation for peace of mind and happiness
• sense of life passing by
• belief ‘if only I could change everything about myself everything would be better’
• a strong desire to escape—including running away or suicide
• belief that what one does best may be what one does worst—I am damned if I do and damned if I don’t
• propensity to live in the future—“Everything will be OK if/when/after….”
• distrusting relationships in general and specifically with the abuser’s gender
Verbal abusers are generally in total denial that they are abusive. Therefore, the great tragedy in a verbally abusive relationship is that the other’s efforts to bring reconciliation, mutual understanding and intimacy are rejected because the abuser experiences it as adversarial. This is so because of his/her fragility and inability to be vulnerable to create a mutually equal exchange. The raw truth is—if you are in a verbally abusive relationship, the opportunity to change the relationship is difficult. Without guidance and support of professional help it is fair to state the obvious—it is impossible.
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