home life. Sex on the run is becoming the answer – even with all the health risks. Thanks to the internet and chat rooms, heels and honeys are having it easy; naughty notes are easier to hide from a spouse than long lunches. Then of course, there is the old anthem, “it’s easier to ask forgiveness than it is to ask permission”.

If you have ever cheated on a spouse and when found out, claimed “It didn’t mean anything…” you already know it won’t wash. In reality you’re saying that you were ready to dump your marriag

Suffice to say we all want many things in life and any spouse we choose can offer only some of them. If we can’t be content with what we have vowed to keep, then we should at least realize that simply trading that person in for a poacher idling somewhere in the wings is not likely to be the answer to all our dreams.

True, poachers are adventuresome, sexually attractive, and extremely self confident – but they also prefer the short-term challenge of hit-and-run which explains their preference for the married target. They have already justified their behavior to themselves, yet understandably are mistrustful of another’s loyalty.

Online dating has opened cavernous doors to the poacher; male and female. While not all profiles or first response emails contain out-and-out lies, like resumes -- all of them stretch the truth. To the recipient fantasies run at a fever pitch because imaging is based on mere words. Body language and tonal implications are all in the mind of the reader, and they’re seeing sexual hunger.

In an interview with a male poacher who scores high on his ‘married targets’, he told me that the intensity of this sexual dare is “better than eating cold olives at 3am” – (whatever that should chance to mean).

On the other hand, the female poacher often comes from a broken home where the cause of her parent’s arguments and ultimate breakup result in self-guilt. In maturity, she needs to prove she is desirable enough to tempt a husband away from his family. As the seducer she can somehow feel vindicated. While this is not the only reason for female cheaters, it is a common one.

They do it to feel beautiful and wanted again. They do it for love. They do it for sex or because they are lonely. Some do it to escape the monotony of marriage and kids. And sadly, some do it for revenge! There is no trauma quite like walking in on the cheating husband; particularly in your own bedroom. Smart wives don’t run for a gun or knife, they get even.

With both partners in career jobs today, there seems to be no time or energy for a quality home life. Sex on the run is becoming the answer – even with all the health risks. Thanks to the internet and chat rooms, heels and honeys are having it easy; naughty notes are easier to hide from a spouse than long lunches. Then of course, there is the old anthem, “it’s easier to ask forgiveness than it is to ask permission”.

If you have ever cheated on a spouse and when found out, claimed “It didn’t mean anything…” you already know it won’t wash. In reality you’re saying that you were ready to dump your marriage

They have already justified their behavior to themselves, yet understandably are mistrustful of another’s loyalty.

Online dating has opened cavernous doors to the poacher; male and female. While not all profiles or first response emails contain out-and-out lies, like resumes -- all of them stretch the truth. To the recipient fantasies run at a fever pitch because imaging is based on mere words. Body language and tonal implications are all in the mind of the reader, and they’re seeing sexual hunger.

In an interview with a male poacher who scores high on his ‘married targets’, he told me that the intensity of this sexual dare is “better than eating cold olives at 3am” – (whatever that should chance to mean).

On the other hand, the female poacher often comes from a broken home where the cause of her parent’s arguments and ultimate breakup result in self-guilt. In maturity, she needs to prove she is desirable enough to tempt a husband away from his family. As the seducer she can somehow feel vindicated. While this is not the only reason for female cheaters, it is a common one.

They do it to feel beautiful and wanted again. They do it for love. They do it for sex or because they are lonely. Some do it to escape the monotony of marriage and kids. And sadly, some do it for revenge! There is no trauma quite like walking in on the cheating husband; particularly in your own bedroom. Smart wives don’t run for a gun or knife, they get even.

With both partners in career jobs today, there seems to be no time or energy for a quality home life. Sex on the run is becoming the answer – even with all the health risks. Thanks to the internet and chat rooms, heels and honeys are having it easy; naughty notes are easier to hide from a spouse than long lunches. Then of course, there is the old anthem, “it’s easier to ask forgiveness than it is to ask permission”.

If you have ever cheated on a spouse and when found out, claimed “It didn’t mean anything…” you already know it won’t wash. In reality you’re saying that you were ready to dump your marriag

erview with a male poacher who scores high on his ‘married targets’, he told me that the intensity of this sexual dare is “better than eating cold olives at 3am” – (whatever that should chance to mean).

On the other hand, the female poacher often comes from a broken home where the cause of her parent’s arguments and ultimate breakup result in self-guilt. In maturity, she needs to prove she is desirable enough to tempt a husband away from his family. As the seducer she can somehow feel vindicated. While this is not the only reason for female cheaters, it is a common one.

They do it to feel beautiful and wanted again. They do it for love. They do it for sex or because they are lonely. Some do it to escape the monotony of marriage and kids. And sadly, some do it for revenge! There is no trauma quite like walking in on the cheating husband; particularly in your own bedroom. Smart wives don’t run for a gun or knife, they get even.

With both partners in career jobs today, there seems to be no time or energy for a quality home life. Sex on the run is becoming the answer – even with all the health risks. Thanks to the internet and chat rooms, heels and honeys are having it easy; naughty notes are easier to hide from a spouse than long lunches. Then of course, there is the old anthem, “it’s easier to ask forgiveness than it is to ask permission”.

If you have ever cheated on a spouse and when found out, claimed “It didn’t mean anything…” you already know it won’t wash. In reality you’re saying that you were ready to dump your marriag

the only reason for female cheaters, it is a common one.

They do it to feel beautiful and wanted again. They do it for love. They do it for sex or because they are lonely. Some do it to escape the monotony of marriage and kids. And sadly, some do it for revenge! There is no trauma quite like walking in on the cheating husband; particularly in your own bedroom. Smart wives don’t run for a gun or knife, they get even.

With both partners in career jobs today, there seems to be no time or energy for a quality home life. Sex on the run is becoming the answer – even with all the health risks. Thanks to the internet and chat rooms, heels and honeys are having it easy; naughty notes are easier to hide from a spouse than long lunches. Then of course, there is the old anthem, “it’s easier to ask forgiveness than it is to ask permission”.

If you have ever cheated on a spouse and when found out, claimed “It didn’t mean anything…” you already know it won’t wash. In reality you’re saying that you were ready to dump your marriag

home life. Sex on the run is becoming the answer – even with all the health risks. Thanks to the internet and chat rooms, heels and honeys are having it easy; naughty notes are easier to hide from a spouse than long lunches. Then of course, there is the old anthem, “it’s easier to ask forgiveness than it is to ask permission”.

If you have ever cheated on a spouse and when found out, claimed “It didn’t mean anything…” you already know it won’t wash. In reality you’re saying that you were ready to dump your marriage over someone that wasn’t worth it. You wouldn’t buy that so why should s(he)?

And if you want to hear about the ultimate “niche market”-- how about the Alibi Agency which, for a fee will give you cover-up phone calls to conceal your cheating activities. This Agency "will provide credible cover stories for almost every adulterous moment for a fee of $25 to $75, depending on the tailor-made fib."

Just about anything can be an opportunity to make a buck today.

2006 Esther Smith