ally corrupt too. When we live two lives, we are coming from shame the whole time, but until we met someone we really want to be with, and became attached to that person in some sort of human dynamic, we’re not aware of our shame.

Nasty people, people who are moody and attacking, are coming from a place of feeling small, irrelevant and so they fear being made redundant. Feeling small is behind so much attention seeking. Feeling small.

Kind people, those who might be tough on the surface, but generous at heart, are coming

Have you recently stopped the rush and considered this question? Are you coming from loneliness, and therefore seeking companionship? Are you coming from anger, and therefore determined to “make it” in the world? Are you coming from smallness, feeling rejected, and therefore always trying to prove yourself?

As a leader, and a lover, it is wise to know where you are coming from in relationships with people. As you know already from your reading, you can’t manage relationship if you can’t manage yourself. You can’t know someone else if you don’t know yourself. Otherwise, you will just be projecting onto people, and won’t know anything about your reality or your truth or love.

It doesn’t matter whether it is your relationships, your friendships, your finances or your work; you come from the same place in all of them. That is a vital awareness. Some people come from kindness, some from authority, some from mothering, and some from fathering. Where we come from in our relationships with people seems to fluctuate, but this is not true.

Sometimes the person we are interacting with accentuates where we are coming from. Alone, we can be an angel. Even traveling from one place to another, being very busy, we hardly have time to stop and experience the affect of our own thinking and feeling. We love and leave and run to the next because we are hurt or afraid. But when we become attached to someone, it is different For example, when we are in a relationship with someone who we really want to like us, even at work or in a love relationship, we can be very deceptive because we are trying not to offend that person. So we put on an act in order to get this person to do something. We can’t trust just being our real self; we bundle up our secrets, hide ourselves, even from our children, so these relationships accentuated our shame - and this is healthy, because how else will we know our shame? It’s the same when we do things we are not proud of, and then keep it a secret from our children, because we teach them to have shame too. They know there is something hidden in the closet. So they copy, and learn to be personally corrupt too. When we live two lives, we are coming from shame the whole time, but until we met someone we really want to be with, and became attached to that person in some sort of human dynamic, we’re not aware of our shame.

Nasty people, people who are moody and attacking, are coming from a place of feeling small, irrelevant and so they fear being made redundant. Feeling small is behind so much attention seeking. Feeling small.

Kind people, those who might be tough on the surface, but generous at heart, are coming

else if you don’t know yourself. Otherwise, you will just be projecting onto people, and won’t know anything about your reality or your truth or love.

It doesn’t matter whether it is your relationships, your friendships, your finances or your work; you come from the same place in all of them. That is a vital awareness. Some people come from kindness, some from authority, some from mothering, and some from fathering. Where we come from in our relationships with people seems to fluctuate, but this is not true.

Sometimes the person we are interacting with accentuates where we are coming from. Alone, we can be an angel. Even traveling from one place to another, being very busy, we hardly have time to stop and experience the affect of our own thinking and feeling. We love and leave and run to the next because we are hurt or afraid. But when we become attached to someone, it is different For example, when we are in a relationship with someone who we really want to like us, even at work or in a love relationship, we can be very deceptive because we are trying not to offend that person. So we put on an act in order to get this person to do something. We can’t trust just being our real self; we bundle up our secrets, hide ourselves, even from our children, so these relationships accentuated our shame - and this is healthy, because how else will we know our shame? It’s the same when we do things we are not proud of, and then keep it a secret from our children, because we teach them to have shame too. They know there is something hidden in the closet. So they copy, and learn to be personally corrupt too. When we live two lives, we are coming from shame the whole time, but until we met someone we really want to be with, and became attached to that person in some sort of human dynamic, we’re not aware of our shame.

Nasty people, people who are moody and attacking, are coming from a place of feeling small, irrelevant and so they fear being made redundant. Feeling small is behind so much attention seeking. Feeling small.

Kind people, those who might be tough on the surface, but generous at heart, are coming

person we are interacting with accentuates where we are coming from. Alone, we can be an angel. Even traveling from one place to another, being very busy, we hardly have time to stop and experience the affect of our own thinking and feeling. We love and leave and run to the next because we are hurt or afraid. But when we become attached to someone, it is different For example, when we are in a relationship with someone who we really want to like us, even at work or in a love relationship, we can be very deceptive because we are trying not to offend that person. So we put on an act in order to get this person to do something. We can’t trust just being our real self; we bundle up our secrets, hide ourselves, even from our children, so these relationships accentuated our shame - and this is healthy, because how else will we know our shame? It’s the same when we do things we are not proud of, and then keep it a secret from our children, because we teach them to have shame too. They know there is something hidden in the closet. So they copy, and learn to be personally corrupt too. When we live two lives, we are coming from shame the whole time, but until we met someone we really want to be with, and became attached to that person in some sort of human dynamic, we’re not aware of our shame.

Nasty people, people who are moody and attacking, are coming from a place of feeling small, irrelevant and so they fear being made redundant. Feeling small is behind so much attention seeking. Feeling small.

Kind people, those who might be tough on the surface, but generous at heart, are coming

ing not to offend that person. So we put on an act in order to get this person to do something. We can’t trust just being our real self; we bundle up our secrets, hide ourselves, even from our children, so these relationships accentuated our shame - and this is healthy, because how else will we know our shame? It’s the same when we do things we are not proud of, and then keep it a secret from our children, because we teach them to have shame too. They know there is something hidden in the closet. So they copy, and learn to be personally corrupt too. When we live two lives, we are coming from shame the whole time, but until we met someone we really want to be with, and became attached to that person in some sort of human dynamic, we’re not aware of our shame.

Nasty people, people who are moody and attacking, are coming from a place of feeling small, irrelevant and so they fear being made redundant. Feeling small is behind so much attention seeking. Feeling small.

Kind people, those who might be tough on the surface, but generous at heart, are coming

ally corrupt too. When we live two lives, we are coming from shame the whole time, but until we met someone we really want to be with, and became attached to that person in some sort of human dynamic, we’re not aware of our shame.

Nasty people, people who are moody and attacking, are coming from a place of feeling small, irrelevant and so they fear being made redundant. Feeling small is behind so much attention seeking. Feeling small.

Kind people, those who might be tough on the surface, but generous at heart, are coming from feeling rejected, they want acceptance. This is a wonderful twist of fate - a disaster in one experience can produce a giving individual in the world.

Once you know where you are coming from, then you can simply know where others are coming from. And when you know where a person is coming from, their reactions to you, and the stresses of their life, can be totally understood. Remember, people’s behavior is totally predictable, and when you can understand the way people act and react, it is easier to work with them, and certainly easier to live with them.

There is order in the chaos. The universe is predictable, nature is predictable, your life is predictable and your relationships are predictable. It is a very beautiful awareness to see how everything in the universe operates according to very simple laws. Our ego tries to defy those laws, this is called emotion, but we can’t defy a universal law. Universal law even affects the cells in our body, and the color of our hair, and the dynamics in our relationships. It is a chemical thing, a construction of energies. So, all the suffering we experience comes from the ego, defying nature. This is called pain.

To understand something is to see beauty in it. The materialist will look at the world and see acceptable and unacceptable. They will divide life into these two groups, attracted to one, and avoiding (or trying to change) the other. That is the materialist life, more acceptable, less unacceptable. Materially, this is a powerful way to think because it is the mindset that causes us to accumulates things. So if you want a lot of wealth, you can use this mindset to make it happen. The keys are greed, self- importance, fear of failure, ambition and drive. Sadly there is one thing lacking in that materialist life, and that is true happiness.

Happiness comes from the spiritual perspective, which is the opposite of the material perspective. So now we have the real dilemma. To own a house, educate ourselves, educate our children, hold down a job, and lead a company, we need our ego. But the soul of humanity is not made happy by those achievements