[one or more people who've been there who personally guide you]

Actually we only retain about 1% of our short term memory overtime. One measly percent, that's pitiful. What a waste of attending a lecture or listening to an audio if we aren't given the vehicle to make the learning stick.

So, pay attention before you put your money down. Be sure the program includes all three of these.

Think back on the puppy classes or the personal trainer. Both of these programs get you doing and practicing so that once the allotted time is over you can continue on your own. This is key. You want to get involved with a relationship expert that can teach you skills for life.

Pavlov's dog, jumping Shamu, and obedient husbands ~ what do they all have in common? According to Amy Sutherland (in her delightfully told record breaking New York Times article, "What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage") behavior modification used on animals works on people to.

Of course she is 90% correct.

Why do we have to look to animal training to get help for our relationships?

Why could an article based on the same information, written by a marriage counselor only get half the press, if that much?

It simply isn't cool to engage the help of the "relationship trainer". Or at least not yet! Too many bad stigmas in our "I can do it on my own society"? Well, not really, we seek help in many areas of our lives when we might not have in the past.

It wasn't too many years ago that the profession of "personal fitness trainer" didn't exist. Today people who need to know more about specific exercises for their specific body type or life style don't hesitate to hire one.

One day the same will be true for the "relationship trainer".

How many of us have brought home an adorable puppy only to find that she chews up the check book, leaves warm wet spots on the carpet and annoys the neighbors with her whining while we're away? Puppy classes have become the answer. Every major pet store and pet supply store now offers them. Many responsible pet owners make use of them; it saves the furniture, keeps the neighbors happy, and preserves your relationship with your dog.

Plus there's an additional unexpected perk, people enjoy the camaraderie they experience with other dog lovers and new friendships and activities result. The same holds true for new parents. They take parenting classes both while pregnant and after the baby arrives, and love to compare notes and feel confident and comfortable with this major life transition.

So what's the problem? Why is it so hard for us to contemplate "relationship classes" before and after marriage? We seem so adamant about using the "trial and error" method instead of making life so much easier, not to mention enjoyable by taking a relationship course and engaging the help of a "relationship trainer".

There are tools, there are programs available geared towards people, so we don't have to borrow from the animal world.

And nowadays you don't have to leave the comfort of your home. It's all available online. We're so spoilt! It's wonderful!

When looking for the right relationship course or class remember the most effective programs include three things:

Participation [the program gets you involved in doing something]

Accountability [you're held accountable for applying what you learn]

Mentoring [one or more people who've been there who personally guide you]

Actually we only retain about 1% of our short term memory overtime. One measly percent, that's pitiful. What a waste of attending a lecture or listening to an audio if we aren't given the vehicle to make the learning stick.

So, pay attention before you put your money down. Be sure the program includes all three of these.

Think back on the puppy classes or the personal trainer. Both of these programs get you doing and practicing so that once the allotted time is over you can continue on your own. This is key. You want to get involved with a relationship expert that can teach you skills for life.

H

ty"? Well, not really, we seek help in many areas of our lives when we might not have in the past.

It wasn't too many years ago that the profession of "personal fitness trainer" didn't exist. Today people who need to know more about specific exercises for their specific body type or life style don't hesitate to hire one.

One day the same will be true for the "relationship trainer".

How many of us have brought home an adorable puppy only to find that she chews up the check book, leaves warm wet spots on the carpet and annoys the neighbors with her whining while we're away? Puppy classes have become the answer. Every major pet store and pet supply store now offers them. Many responsible pet owners make use of them; it saves the furniture, keeps the neighbors happy, and preserves your relationship with your dog.

Plus there's an additional unexpected perk, people enjoy the camaraderie they experience with other dog lovers and new friendships and activities result. The same holds true for new parents. They take parenting classes both while pregnant and after the baby arrives, and love to compare notes and feel confident and comfortable with this major life transition.

So what's the problem? Why is it so hard for us to contemplate "relationship classes" before and after marriage? We seem so adamant about using the "trial and error" method instead of making life so much easier, not to mention enjoyable by taking a relationship course and engaging the help of a "relationship trainer".

There are tools, there are programs available geared towards people, so we don't have to borrow from the animal world.

And nowadays you don't have to leave the comfort of your home. It's all available online. We're so spoilt! It's wonderful!

When looking for the right relationship course or class remember the most effective programs include three things:

Participation [the program gets you involved in doing something]

Accountability [you're held accountable for applying what you learn]

Mentoring [one or more people who've been there who personally guide you]

Actually we only retain about 1% of our short term memory overtime. One measly percent, that's pitiful. What a waste of attending a lecture or listening to an audio if we aren't given the vehicle to make the learning stick.

So, pay attention before you put your money down. Be sure the program includes all three of these.

Think back on the puppy classes or the personal trainer. Both of these programs get you doing and practicing so that once the allotted time is over you can continue on your own. This is key. You want to get involved with a relationship expert that can teach you skills for life.

ny responsible pet owners make use of them; it saves the furniture, keeps the neighbors happy, and preserves your relationship with your dog.

Plus there's an additional unexpected perk, people enjoy the camaraderie they experience with other dog lovers and new friendships and activities result. The same holds true for new parents. They take parenting classes both while pregnant and after the baby arrives, and love to compare notes and feel confident and comfortable with this major life transition.

So what's the problem? Why is it so hard for us to contemplate "relationship classes" before and after marriage? We seem so adamant about using the "trial and error" method instead of making life so much easier, not to mention enjoyable by taking a relationship course and engaging the help of a "relationship trainer".

There are tools, there are programs available geared towards people, so we don't have to borrow from the animal world.

And nowadays you don't have to leave the comfort of your home. It's all available online. We're so spoilt! It's wonderful!

When looking for the right relationship course or class remember the most effective programs include three things:

Participation [the program gets you involved in doing something]

Accountability [you're held accountable for applying what you learn]

Mentoring [one or more people who've been there who personally guide you]

Actually we only retain about 1% of our short term memory overtime. One measly percent, that's pitiful. What a waste of attending a lecture or listening to an audio if we aren't given the vehicle to make the learning stick.

So, pay attention before you put your money down. Be sure the program includes all three of these.

Think back on the puppy classes or the personal trainer. Both of these programs get you doing and practicing so that once the allotted time is over you can continue on your own. This is key. You want to get involved with a relationship expert that can teach you skills for life.

of making life so much easier, not to mention enjoyable by taking a relationship course and engaging the help of a "relationship trainer".

There are tools, there are programs available geared towards people, so we don't have to borrow from the animal world.

And nowadays you don't have to leave the comfort of your home. It's all available online. We're so spoilt! It's wonderful!

When looking for the right relationship course or class remember the most effective programs include three things:

Participation [the program gets you involved in doing something]

Accountability [you're held accountable for applying what you learn]

Mentoring [one or more people who've been there who personally guide you]

Actually we only retain about 1% of our short term memory overtime. One measly percent, that's pitiful. What a waste of attending a lecture or listening to an audio if we aren't given the vehicle to make the learning stick.

So, pay attention before you put your money down. Be sure the program includes all three of these.

Think back on the puppy classes or the personal trainer. Both of these programs get you doing and practicing so that once the allotted time is over you can continue on your own. This is key. You want to get involved with a relationship expert that can teach you skills for life.

[one or more people who've been there who personally guide you]

Actually we only retain about 1% of our short term memory overtime. One measly percent, that's pitiful. What a waste of attending a lecture or listening to an audio if we aren't given the vehicle to make the learning stick.

So, pay attention before you put your money down. Be sure the program includes all three of these.

Think back on the puppy classes or the personal trainer. Both of these programs get you doing and practicing so that once the allotted time is over you can continue on your own. This is key. You want to get involved with a relationship expert that can teach you skills for life.

Here's another reason why relationship courses are important. We, as human beings, tend to run on auto-pilot.

Like the airline pilot who sets the course and then lets the plane computers do their job. The plane flies exactly as programmed. Our lives tend to be like that. We're programmed from early childhood as to how we act in given situations and how we feel when certain things happen to us.

When we get together we must disengage our auto-pilot to accommodate the joint journey. If we don't we'll find one of us flying to Paris while the other might be programmed for Honolulu. Doesn't work does it? Let's not make the most important decision of our life while operating on emotional auto-pilot.

Getting into and keeping that right relationship doesn't have to be all trial and error, you can get the right guy or the right gal. Listening to CDs on how to court her are not going to do it. Simply finding out your personality type is not going to do it. Hanging around the singles bars is not going to do it.

You first have to discover the real you. And just like being physically fit, you can settle for mediocre or you can have a personal trainer help you discover the exercises that are perfect for your body type, your life style and your health level. You can do the same for preparing for a relationship, you can do it hit and miss on your own or you can involve a trainer [relationship expert] to fine tune the real you and to make the most of that real you to attract and keep that right guy or gal.

Move over Shamu! Here come the "relationship trainers"!